"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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~$550 of unauthorized charges on my checking account (debit card)

Korrupt

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I called my bank headquarters and reported the ~$200 charge earlier this week. The lady on the other end said she disabled my debit card, and I would be getting a new one as well as a "dispute form" soon to dispute the charge and hopefully get my money back. The charge was made on 10/27.

Worse news...

I went back to september and saw a charge for ~$350 that was made on 9/09. I didn't see these charges because I was busy as all hell at the time and didn't check my online statement very often. Of course I see this on a sunday--when the bank isn't open.

God f*cking damnit...

Is there any chance of me getting my ~$550 back? It's been almost 3 weeks since the ~$200 charge and over 2 months since the ~$350 charge... Ugh. On top of this I've also been having some (embarrassing not deadly) health issues. When it rains it pours.

FVCK.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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Yea, you can dispute it. Keep a better eye on your account. I check mine almost every day so stuff like this won't happen. Also get the app called Mint. It's similar to Intuit Quickbooks. You get to see how you spend your money and you can see Trends and Budgets. I know exactly how much I spend on everything every month.
 

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When this happened to me, the bank made me call the 800 number that the scammer listed as the merchant's number for the credit card charge. Mine were Microsoft and Planned Parenthood. They intentionally list huge companies that are difficult to deal with. The bank ended up refunding my money afterward.
 

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EXACTLY why I don't use my debit card nor checks. I only pay with credit cards.

- When people use your debit card for these charges (through theft), the money is gone until the Bank gets it back. That could take up to 30 days sometimes, if they are able to get it back at all.

- When you use cash and your wallet is stolen (or pick-pocketed), the money is gone until you sue the theft and take it back, in which you might as well just say it's gone.

When you use a credit card, you hit CHARGEBACK and the transaction comes off your amount "due".

I don't carry a debit card (destroyed it and told my Credit Union to not send me any), I don't carry checks, and the only vendors I use for my checking are those with ACH agreements but those are established companies like my landlord, student loan company, and insurance company.

Bottom line is that debit cards, checks and cash offer the LOWEST form of protection against theft and unauthorized charges.
 

Dust 2 Dust

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Don't shop with a debit card especially at gas stations. If crooks get your account number they can wipe out your entire bank account.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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