Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
MrS said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Exactly. This whole "the girls love muscles" thing isn't sh*t for motivation. Theres got to be something deeper in you. I'm getting my ass up at 5:30am 4 days a week for my entire summer, just so I can bulk up and make my senior year of football, the best I've ever had. I'm tired of being good, strong, but small. I'm tired of always being tired. I want to go out and knock the f*ck out of kids. So I lift. I lift to get bigger. I lift to get stronger. I lift to get faster. I lift to FEEL better. The asthetic quality of my muscle gains will just be an added bonus, not my goal.RaWBLooD said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
i think alot of guys start for this reason and then start doing it for themselves after having a taste of working outRaWBLooD said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Was that for you, or is that about my minor beer belly?MissionX said:Haha the 52 reasons why we should be in the gym.... I've got one you don't
If you have been sitting there all day and night playing xbox live, and you girlfriend says that you are a pleasantly plump person. Take the hint, get you fat ****in ass to the gym and get ripped before yah girl leaves you for the mailman.
For everything else there is mastercard.
Haha
Payne