You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
MrS said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Exactly. This whole "the girls love muscles" thing isn't sh*t for motivation. Theres got to be something deeper in you. I'm getting my ass up at 5:30am 4 days a week for my entire summer, just so I can bulk up and make my senior year of football, the best I've ever had. I'm tired of being good, strong, but small. I'm tired of always being tired. I want to go out and knock the f*ck out of kids. So I lift. I lift to get bigger. I lift to get stronger. I lift to get faster. I lift to FEEL better. The asthetic quality of my muscle gains will just be an added bonus, not my goal.RaWBLooD said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
i think alot of guys start for this reason and then start doing it for themselves after having a taste of working outRaWBLooD said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Was that for you, or is that about my minor beer belly?MissionX said:Haha the 52 reasons why we should be in the gym.... I've got one you don't
If you have been sitting there all day and night playing xbox live, and you girlfriend says that you are a pleasantly plump person. Take the hint, get you fat ****in ass to the gym and get ripped before yah girl leaves you for the mailman.
For everything else there is mastercard.
Haha
Payne