"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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50 yo guy and 26 yo girl ?

BigFoot

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There's a girl at work about 26 years old
that I've had some interest in for a while.
I was on vacation last week, so this week I was thinking I'd ask her out for lunch to possibly get things going.
Well, this week I find out she's interested in another guy at work who is 50, and apparently this interest has been going on for a while.
He likes her, but says she may be a bit young, and I know she wants children and he's not sure.
Has anyone heard of a long term relationship like this working out? I'm kind of hoping this doesn't work out (for my sake) and he's not even sure about her
anyway !!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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salsipuedes

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What are your intentions with this woman? i hope you don't want kids, by the time they where 20 theres a good chance your not going to be there and thats not good, i think the woman is old enough to know what she likes and what she wants.
 

BigFoot

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He is 50, not me. I'm asking if anyone has known similar situations (age difference)
and what the outcome was.
 

JonJack

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Originally posted by BigFoot
He is 50, not me. I'm asking if anyone has known similar situations (age difference)
and what the outcome was.
Knowing whether there are similar situations and whether they had positive outcomes will not make any difference whatsoever. It's not like you're gonna tell her these stories and she's gonna start choosing you over the 50 year old dude.

Even if it doesn't work out between the 2 of them, what makes you think you would be her next choice? Her choosing someone else over you at this point in time should be a clear indication that you're second best to this guy. Things may change later on, but you don't freakin think about it now. You just let it flow.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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vectorz

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No, it's not common for that type large of an age diff. Not to say that it doesn't happen, but it's definitely not common.

Regardless, you've got the wrong mentality. Focus'ing on ONE female only, is not the way of the Don Juan. Obsession = failure as a DJ.
 

DJ_in_making

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Originally posted by BigFoot
He is 50, not me. I'm asking if anyone has known similar situations (age difference)
and what the outcome was.
ask Anna Nicole Smith...
 

TesuqueRed

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Originally posted by BigFoot
...Has anyone heard of a long term relationship like this working out? I'm kind of hoping this doesn't work out (for my sake) and he's not even sure about her
anyway !!
ha - do a search on don steele or at steelballs.com. he does the how to date young women thing and sizes these things up pretty good. you'd be the possible "jimmy" in this equation. love him or hate him, it's an engaging read
 

BigFoot

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Thanks, you guys are correct. I'm wasting my time, esp. since she seems to like him quite abit. It just took me by surprise I guess coming back from vacation and seeing this going on.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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