5 Things That Have to Happen Before You Fix Your Crappy Life

[CostaDeSol]

http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-things-that-have-to-happen-before-you-fix-your-crappy-life/

I think i've already hit my breaking point and have begun to realize how slow the process of building yourself up again can be

 

[RedZone]

It might be a slow process, but at least you realize something has to be done. Most can't say the same.

 

[Serenity]

Change is so simple yet so hard. All it's really about is directing your attention to what you want to change. The worst way to change something is to think about it. When you pay more attention to your thoughts you pay less attention to what obviously needs to be done and to do it.

I like to say this is the main reason for stress, anxiety and depression. An inability to direct attention. Your thoughts telling you that you can't? Why bother listening, it doesn't exactly help. Directing attention can be trained. You can meditate, pay attention to your body or even exercise, it all serves the same purpose. Even just noticing what's going on in your immediate surroundings help.

When you know what's right in front of you, then you can start changing it. Your thoughts will resist the change, don't bother listening. When you learn to control attention you can start changing more complicated things.

 

[fuzzball]

ah good old john cheese.

 

[Tomo]

Nice one CDS. Here's my 'adaptation' Rep to anyone who can pick it's similiarity to something

1) Denial & Isolation - I still believe in the Disney fairytale, I still believe in treating girls like princesses
2) Anger - Why does she date that jerk a*shole and not me? I treat her like a princess
3) Bargaining - Alright, I'll jump on to SS and take only the things I need for me to pick up chicks and who cares about learning anything else
4) Depression - Why has 'step 3' not worked or why does it not make me happy?
5) Acceptance - I'm flawed, I have my ups and down but I am who I am and if I want to really give this all a shot I have to be wholly committed and take no shortcuts.

 

[Kbomb]

Nice one CDS. Here's my 'adaptation' Rep to anyone who can pick it's similiarity to something

1) Denial & Isolation - I still believe in the Disney fairytale, I still believe in treating girls like princesses
2) Anger - Why does she date that jerk a*shole and not me? I treat her like a princess
3) Bargaining - Alright, I'll jump on to SS and take only the things I need for me to pick up chicks and who cares about learning anything else
4) Depression - Why has 'step 3' not worked or why does it not make me happy?
5) Acceptance - I'm flawed, I have my ups and down but I am who I am and if I want to really give this all a shot I have to be wholly committed and take no shortcuts.

This

 

[CostaDeSol]

It might be a slow process, but at least you realize something has to be done. Most can't say the same.

thats a nice way of seeing the silver lining

 

[CostaDeSol]

Change is so simple yet so hard. All it's really about is directing your attention to what you want to change. The worst way to change something is to think about it. When you pay more attention to your thoughts you pay less attention to what obviously needs to be done and to do it.

I like to say this is the main reason for stress, anxiety and depression. An inability to direct attention. Your thoughts telling you that you can't? Why bother listening, it doesn't exactly help. Directing attention can be trained. You can meditate, pay attention to your body or even exercise, it all serves the same purpose. Even just noticing what's going on in your immediate surroundings help.

When you know what's right in front of you, then you can start changing it. Your thoughts will resist the change, don't bother listening. When you learn to control attention you can start changing more complicated things.

thanks for the tips. i've noticed that i DO need to work on directing my attention