That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Tomo said:Nice one CDS. Here's my 'adaptation' Rep to anyone who can pick it's similiarity to something
1) Denial & Isolation - I still believe in the Disney fairytale, I still believe in treating girls like princesses
2) Anger - Why does she date that jerk a*shole and not me? I treat her like a princess
3) Bargaining - Alright, I'll jump on to SS and take only the things I need for me to pick up chicks and who cares about learning anything else
4) Depression - Why has 'step 3' not worked or why does it not make me happy?
5) Acceptance - I'm flawed, I have my ups and down but I am who I am and if I want to really give this all a shot I have to be wholly committed and take no shortcuts.
thats a nice way of seeing the silver liningRedZone said:
thanks for the tips. i've noticed that i DO need to work on directing my attentionGrewd said: