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5 reasons why coffee dates kick a$$

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Many guys wonder about the great places to take a woman out on a first date and how to go about it. Some dating experts suggest dinners, others going for drinks and others minigolf or some type of physical activity which gets her involved.

There’s a place and a time for all of those activities but the ultimate place to take a woman out is for coffee. Why is coffee such an excellent date scenario?

1. It’s very cheap. Dinner can cost you over $100 and drinks at a fancy club can be almost as much if you ad the cover.

2. Women love talking about themselves. If you get them over coffee, they know they have your attention 100% and will start to talk to you about deep things they do not tell most men.

3. Coffee allows you to get her life story. You learn about her and if you are good at asking all the right questions, you can get in her pants really fast. All you need to do is ask her what type of man she is attracted to, what her past relationships were like and you will get a road map to her underwear.

4. If you do not feel attracted to her, you can simply gulp down your coffee and say you gotta go. You aren’t stuck there for a 5 course meal and you feel awkward and uncomfortable sitting across from her.

5. If you truly are interested in her, you can easily escalate things by taking her to another venue, such as a club (if you are having the date in the evening) or go shopping with her if it’s still the day.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Good advice. But, I never got into coffee dates. Most of my first dates included lunch (ex; Taco Bell - cheap) and a walk in a park. Or some type of action date.
 

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lol a cheap lunch is good too i suppose, it's equally easy to go away, but it depends on what kind of women you are dating.

it's kinda weird if you take a 30 something year old woman to taco bell for your first date, lol. not very classy, where as a coffee store may be a little bit more appropriate. at least from my point of view.. u know what i mean?
 

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Everyone has their own style. I personally love coffee outtings.
 

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Metaphysical said:
lol a cheap lunch is good too i suppose, it's equally easy to go away, but it depends on what kind of women you are dating.

it's kinda weird if you take a 30 something year old woman to taco bell for your first date, lol. not very classy, where as a coffee store may be a little bit more appropriate. at least from my point of view.. u know what i mean?
STAR BUCKS

Show a little class. (Irony.)

But seriously, a coffee date is cool, I like em. I sometimes do them because I know their cheep... but still fun.:rock:
 

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Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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as opposed to the clubs - you can actually talk there
 

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lol starbucks yea.. what you may wanna do is look up on google for 'coffee stores' and type your city in there too..

i found a list of the top 25 coffee stores in my city and set out to try them all out.. now i know which ones are the coolest places around here.. and some of them are actually quite stylish and elegant.
 

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best coffee dates are the ones where you get to grind your own beans
 

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Hey Metaphysical,

Can you go into more detail about what to talk about with the girls? I have no problem taking girls to these little dates but I can never seem to take the girls home. We always end up buddies :down:
 

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Never got into the coffee dates. Maybe cuz im 24,black and live in nyc. So most of the girls that i get with, 18-26 usually like the movies,or lunch or walk in the park thing. Works for me hasnt failed yet. I kind of think the cofee stuff is overrated to be honest but every1 has a diff style
 

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Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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what does that have to do with anything? coffee dates can be done anywhere with anyone.
 

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I think Coffee dates are horrible for getting laid. I rather go to a bar or a lounge and have a few ****tails. I find coffee dates extremely boring. The only way I would recommend a coffee date would be if your meeting a girl from online for the first time. This gives you an idea of how she looks like and makes her feel safe about meeting you. Other than this I say a BIG NO to coffee dates.
 

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I think Coffee dates are horrible for getting laid. I rather go to a bar or a lounge and have a few ****tails. I find coffee dates extremely boring. The only way I would recommend a coffee date would be if your meeting a girl from online for the first time. This gives you an idea of how she looks like and makes her feel safe about meeting you. Other than this I say a BIG NO to coffee dates.
 

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Coffee dates are PERFECT if you have or want to develop conversation skills and wanna work Anti-Dump's MACHINE. (see the archives or the bible or whatever). The goal is NOT to get laid that day. The goal is to fill your pipeline with chicks that are into you.

First date: coffee
Second date: nice dinner someplace, club, whatever
Third date: dinner yourplace + sex.

Or you could just skip date 2, and invite them ALL (not at the same time fool) to your place for dinner second date. The ones that agree and show up, MONEY. The one's that don't or flake, well, see ya.

Or, if you are super confident and have no fear, just pull out the shock and awe close at the end of your 30 minute coffee date at 2pm sober in the broad daylight afternooon.
 

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lookyoung said:
I think Coffee dates are horrible for getting laid. I rather go to a bar or a lounge and have a few ****tails. I find coffee dates extremely boring. The only way I would recommend a coffee date would be if your meeting a girl from online for the first time. This gives you an idea of how she looks like and makes her feel safe about meeting you. Other than this I say a BIG NO to coffee dates.
I agree.

Go for drinks and let loose.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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One thing to remember guys is that not everybody here nor or all the girls they are seeing, 21 and over.

At my University a lot of the girls I'm meeting are 18 and 19. So I can't take them to bars. BTW I lie to them all about my age.
 

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starbucks is classy? their coffee sucks...

But anyway, I'm fine with the coffee date if they have soft couches. I hate hard-backed chars and can't get comfortable in them.
 

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MisterSinister said:
I prefer drinks.
you can't have 5 girls lined up in a day if you go for drinks tho. after 2 you will be drunk as hell as well as spend a fortune on drinks, lol. where as a coffee is 2$ :yes:

clubs down here charge $5 to 10 bucks a drink depending what it is and you can't really hear each other speak

i believe conversation is the greatest tool we have as men
 

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Why would you want to have that many girls lined up in one day? I wouldn't go to a club either, just a lounge. Those are quiet enough.
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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