Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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5 love languages

The Duke

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Have any of you ever used this to explain differences in relationships?
For those that are unfamiliar, its basically a questionaire that pinpoints the different languages of love that you communicate with. For example their are 5 languages......acts of service, receiving gifts, words of affirmation, physical touch, and quality time that people exhibit and expect from others when showing love.

I've done it with about every chic I've dated for any considerable length of time. When problems came up, this tool made it a lot easier to understand.

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just took the test.

One of my best friends told me about the 5 love languages once. Funny, she and I scored the highest in the same category.

So you actually get your girlfriend to take this test with you?
 

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sageproduct said:
So you actually get your girlfriend to take this test with you?
lol....well....The first time I mentioned it she was a little nervous, a few weeks later I had her take the test. When we talked about the results and saw the differences, she was highly upset and paranoid.

Looking back, if I am with a girl who can't appreciate the value of the analysis, I am jumping ship as fast as I can. I also think your more successful relationships will have be those where both parties speak similar languages.
 
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