5 dates later and still unsure...What to do?

[bacanty5]

So I've gone out with this girl 5 times over the last month or so. I've been trying to take it slow and not rush things. She has been a hard one to figure out. She is fairly quiet and reserved at first. She's not your typical pretty girl. She was kind of dorky in High School, but is now very pretty. We have a lot of fun together and she's even mentioned to me how much she enjoys my company and talks about things we need to do together.

For Labor day, my work had a get-together at a local theme park. I invited her to come and we had an awesome time. We spent all day together, and at the end of the date I gave her a CD of some songs of mine that she had heard on my Ipod and liked. She was very appreciative, and gave me biggest hug I have ever recieved from her. ( No, I haven't kissed her yet. It hasn't been right.)

I called her two days later and she didn't answer, so I sent her a text telling her to call me when she got a chance. I didn't hear from her until the next day. She texted me saying that she was sorry for not calling back, but she had been busy packing for a work trip. I texted her back telling her "No worries...How is the trip?" She texted back and told me she was on the plane and about to take off and that she would talk to me later.

I'm at a crossroads here. When we're together it's awesome. But then she pulls stuff like this. I'm tempted to just walk way. What should I do in this situation??

 

[apusislaya]

Go out with her 6th time, kiss her, make out, and f-close.

 

[Cashew]

You may be well on the way to being "just a friend." Have you been getting any kino going? She needs to know (without you just saying it directly) that your intentions are romantic. Just going out with her alone doesn't necessarily convey this.

Be manly and go for it. if you are thinking about kissing her, apply the three second rule to that. You have three seconds from your thought of kissing her to laying one on her. By the sound of it, if you don't act on impulse you are going to just think about it too much and never get it done because it has built up too much in your head.

 

[bacanty5]

Thanks Cashew. You make a good point. I've just worked it too fast in the past, and got physical way too quick. Not always the girl leaving, many times I get bored once I get the "conquer". I have tried some kino and she is weird about it, she's not touchy feely at all. But her body language is always good. When she is sitting next to me, her body/legs are in my direction.

Man, I like this girl too much. I'm thinking of just backing off for a little bit.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

FRIEND ZONE!!!! 5 dates and not even a kiss?? Dude trust me, most girls who argee to go out on a date with a guy, know right then and there that they are physically attracted to him.

Your acting like a friend for the most part, either esclate or stop wasting your time.



PIMP

 

[Rex Man]

She texted me saying that she was sorry for not calling back, but she had been busy packing for a work trip.

C'mon, packing? She's not even trying at this point. The disrespect is already starting to emerge. Either man up and make a move, or move on.

 

[tsmith2334]

Dudeeeee.

Kiss the *****.

Before it becomes too late and you enter the "F" word zone.



Seriously. The right time is when its your time. If you FEEL like kissing her DO IT.

 

[bacanty5]

DonS,

Thanks for the ***** slap. I needed it.

 

[Tear Gas]

wow, 5 dates? i drop the girl if i dont get my **** wet after date 2.