"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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48 Laws Of Power & The Art Of Seduction

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Both books are a good read. I've been reading both books for over 2 yeasr so far, and I plan on getting 33 strategies of war.
 

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Well as far as applying anything in the book goes, I really just try to get a better understanding on what kind of seducer I am, what kind of victim of seduction I am, and what anti-seductive qualities I posses. I'm more of a Rake according to that book, so I try to get a better understanding about being a rake in that book.

I'm not and extreme rake since I have similar qualities of the charmer etc. Even though the tactics that are used in the book out dated, the principles are still the same. You just have to apply those principles to todays' way of doing things.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The one thing I am finding that I don't like in this book is that Greene seems to recommend giving your targer a lot of attention.

There are a few chapters I just read where he says you should be around your target as much as possible in the early going.... and a chapter before that he says you should put a lot of effort into giving them gifts....

Need some expert DJ opinions on how credible this advice is being that a lot of DJ's say less attention is better, and that a woman will take you for granted if you give her too much attention.
 

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Yea I thought same thing...take it with a grain of salt. Maybe pay them attention as long as your PHYSICALLY with them. If on a date, don't drool over the waitress, don't stare at another woman with lust etc.

I read AOS 4 yrs ago, and am rereading certain chapters of it now. I especially liked the chapters on Mixed signals, make the pursuee the pursuer, the anti seducer, the rake, stir anxiety. Good stuff. I remember chatting with someone who summed it up: Make her feel better after talking and/or being with you then she felt before.
 

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White Sox good way to sum it up :)

But does that mean you have to compliment her all the time and kiss her ass? Give me some examples of things you actually do?
 

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I remember coming across the pocket-size version of AoS, while in Thailand. Was totally engrossed in it. Seriously pimp sh!t.

I remember the ways in which I applied it, was mostly mentally playing up one of these characters qualities. I'm a rake if anything, but exhibit almost all the different character's qualities here and there.

So in application first and foremost I would find my mind, my approach and mental flavor in relating to be saturated in seductive allure. Mysterious, powerful, ambiguous, dangerous, etc. This aura alone will seduce and attract. So while interacting w. babydolls, in such a state... I would find myself playing up the certain qualities of any of these characters, in accordance to the moment.

I remember I had like 3 rings on, while in thailand. All sort of crazy, and this nutty belt. I can't remember which character plays the sort of adrogynous role, but some chick commented in this regard to me. And I found myself playing it up on her. Then shifting to other characters as the moment/interaction changed. Like a big chameleon of seduction... listening to the needs of the moment. lol... it was an excellent gear, and I very much enjoyed the art therof.

I have the full size version sitting on my shelf, and its been calling me for ages now. I'll have to peep it out... and saturate the seductive mind again.

The dark nature of seduction, vs. attraction is definetly gold to understand and be able to implement. Its game is wickedly alluring... and oh so enjoyable. In my experience... women drip for this sh!t. Thus all the goddamn dangerous love story adventures they read.

And as far as my character goes... I'll choose the Casanova pimp sh!t, over C/F anyday.

SuaveOn'
 

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Good post Darklight!

It seems like most people form an association with the rake but end up using characteristics and actions of the other characters. According to the book, Cassanova was the hybrd seducer, thus using all of the above and appyling them when necessary.

You are so right being myserious, powerful, ambigous, and dangerous all work if you used correctly. Can you give me some tips on how I can accomplish this though without dressing like a drag queen? lol just kidding

I encourage you to read the book again DarKLight so that we can keep this post active and describe examples of how these theories actually do work.

You are so right. C & F is for amateur DJ's......
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I just read the part on how Rita Hayworth was courted by some arab guy. This guy basically flowered her with attention, but eventually she ended up with him.

It was the section on making her enter into "your world"

Easier said than done.
 

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Jayer said:
White Sox good way to sum it up :)

But does that mean you have to compliment her all the time and kiss her ass? Give me some examples of things you actually do?
Jayer I personal train at my gym...now I'm working on someone 14 yrs my junior. At times, I'm harder than hell on her..rednecking her, busting her on her sh*t etc. Other times I'm sweet as pie. Get the contrast?

The other day before we began training, I said in Spanish: Hola lindo seniorita con benito ojos (with apologies for the broken Spanish!) She looked at me and wanted to know what I said. I told her it meant "Hello pretty girl with beutifull eyes" She almost melted there. I am always putting my arm around her almost buddy like, pullling her close to me. These days she returns the same. See how to create attraction? Then next minute I'm ragging on her about slacking or something

Agreed keep thread up and alive. Great book
 

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Devan and WhiteSox, thanks for posting!

Both of you are on the same track as far as mixing hot and cold, pain and pleasure, both sections from AOS!

I think some examples in this book are giving a woman too much attention yet I also know that if you don't do anything nothing will happen either. So its like you are saying you have to use a good combination of both...

Keep posting on here. I'd definitely like to hear about how you both are progressing with your current targets!
 

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Last week I finally got my foot in the door with current target. I had posted a thread last month about how she blew me off for first date, then I did same to her for the make up date. A classic case of seduction warfare. After I blew her off, she calls me 10 days later. We've been flirting ever since. I made out with her a few days ago. Not much, but a start. This one is gonna take time, a slow seduction. Will keep you guys posted!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Jayer said:
White Sox is that an example of using absence or mixing pain with pleasure?
Both...when I left a message on her VM telling her something came up and that I couldn't keep the date and that I couldn't keep my personal training date with her the following PM, I left her in soem pain. She thought "Huh, the nerve of him! How dare him!" The next night I saw her in bar parking lot talking on cell phone. I just waved and kept on walking to my Jeep.

I then used absence by not calling or showing up at gym to train her at our usual times. Then she calls me to resume training after more than a week, I had already nexted her!! LOL! I mentioned NOTHING about our foiled date from before (a lot of AFC's would have brought that up BTW). Notice how I didn't shed any light or importance on this? I'm sure I gained some points there!!

This gal wants me to go slow, real slow. I'm fine with that...I'm still a ways before I sleep with her, but progressing
 

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Good stuff white sox.

Anymore updates? You definitely used some AOS tactics right there. Lets see how it unfoils....

Do you think you can create a triangle? Maybe talk to a friend of hers (female friend of course) at the gym or just another girl she would see you talking with to drive her IL up?
 

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If used correctly, 48 Laws of Power is the god book for combating oneitis and moving on after a bad break up. Robert Greene is a brilliant man, and am extremely greatful towards you guys for recommending it last year.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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