"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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4 year trauma

ZeeK

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Look... I've known this girl for 4 years and since day 1 we hit off well... But somehow, as time goes on, people starts gossiping about us and that's then we kinna avoided each other... Every year, I'ld try to get close to her but somehow she's "occupied" everytime...

I wanna try to get back to the times where we were hitting off well... But it seemed hard to do so... Just recently, she accepted my first gift but rejected the 2nd one... She didn't want any misunderstanding.. And she always ignores me when i ask certain questions... How the hell am I suppose to go on? :confused:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ToughGuy

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Zeek my friend forget her.
Find some one sweet for you. You DSERVER far better then that.
Why to love some one who doesn't have any value of your love.

There is always a better gal in the corner.

Yours
Tuffy
 

Slimijs

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Read the bible before asking AFC questions!

It isn't a trauma, it's nothing. I usually try to flirt with the chicks best friends to see her reaction.
 

NRM

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Zeek. Ask yourself this one question.

What do I want out of this?

I guaranty you that it isn't just friendship. You have lots of time to make friends and lots of people to make friends with. And of course, you wouldn't be coming here if you didn't want more. Why do you want to go back to the time when you were hitting it well? Do you need another female friend or something? If you want to get anywhere, you need to quit lying to yourself. You don't want to go back to the time you hit it off well. You want to date her, romantically.

Now that that's settled, why is it that 4 years and you hit it off the first of them and you never went on a date with her? Ignore the boyfriend crap. You wanted to know if she was romantically interested in you. So naturally, you ask for the number, you ask for the date, you go for the kiss. That is how you find out if a girl is interested in you. That is how you don't waste 4 years of your life following one girl that may just possibly reject you anyways.

If the girl had any interest in you, she would want that misunderstanding. Girls love a guy they can't figure out, and they don't know if they like them or not. If she's ignoring you, you aren't getting anywhere. Move on, find a new woman, you aren't going anywhere with this one.

Now if you are still persistant, okay. Here's the plan. You ask her for her number, you ask her on a date, you kiss her. If she rejects you at any one time, it's over, she has no interest in pursuing a relationship with you, there is NOTHING you can do. Move on.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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