"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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4 Year Old Approach

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So I was writing a paper at this coffee shop. I did some flirting with the girl behind the register, thought I was hot sh!t. Right. So I go sit down, and a couple of tables next to me is this girl and 2 friends. She's pretty cute, mind you. Suddenly this family comes in, mom & dad + their son and daughter (both are pretty young).

They sit at the table inbetween me and the cute girl. The little boy gets his chair scoots it next to the girl, and just sits there. She starts laughing and says "Hi!"

He's like "Hey."

The parents and the girls friends all think this is funny. The girl asks "So how old are you?"

"4" says the kid. "Aw, that's cute. My name's Ashley" says the girl.

The dad starts telling the kid "What do you say? Tell her your name"

"I'm David."

Then the dad goes up to the kids ear whispers something. The kid turns and asks the girl "Do you come here often?" Everyone laughs.

At this point I'm intrigued. It's amazing that anyone can do this stuff. What's even more amazing is that a 4 YEAR OLD was doing this. 4!! So then she starts asking him what his favorite TV shows are (he watches Mythbusters by the way). They kind of talk, but it's mostly a group talk at this point, the dad giving the son pointers and follow up questions. About 10 minutes later the family left.

So, thoughts? I'm just in shock. It really slapped me in the face and put things into perspective. This crap is so simple and yet we all run a million thoughts and fears through our heads about approaching. Something tells me we're taking this stuff waaay too seriously.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Well, she doesn't have to worry that the 4 year old is after her puzzy. Or a rapist. And he's got nothing to lose status-wise. So, don't beat yourself up, b/c any baby can get any woman's attn.
 

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Yeah, my uncle showed my little 1 year old cousin the blink, and lick. He blinks one eye, and lick his lips at cute girls. Lmao, so funny, atleast his dad is teaching him this stuff.
 

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thedeparted said:
Well, she doesn't have to worry that the 4 year old is after her puzzy. Or a rapist. And he's got nothing to lose status-wise. So, don't beat yourself up, b/c any baby can get any woman's attn.

Oh I wasn't upset over it, just thought it was funny.
 

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Jon55 said:
So I was writing a paper at this coffee shop. I did some flirting with the girl behind the register, thought I was hot sh!t. Right. So I go sit down, and a couple of tables next to me is this girl and 2 friends. She's pretty cute, mind you. Suddenly this family comes in, mom & dad + their son and daughter (both are pretty young).

They sit at the table inbetween me and the cute girl. The little boy gets his chair scoots it next to the girl, and just sits there. She starts laughing and says "Hi!"

He's like "Hey."

The parents and the girls friends all think this is funny. The girl asks "So how old are you?"

"4" says the kid. "Aw, that's cute. My name's Ashley" says the girl.

The dad starts telling the kid "What do you say? Tell her your name"

"I'm David."

Then the dad goes up to the kids ear whispers something. The kid turns and asks the girl "Do you come here often?" Everyone laughs.

At this point I'm intrigued. It's amazing that anyone can do this stuff. What's even more amazing is that a 4 YEAR OLD was doing this. 4!! So then she starts asking him what his favorite TV shows are (he watches Mythbusters by the way). They kind of talk, but it's mostly a group talk at this point, the dad giving the son pointers and follow up questions. About 10 minutes later the family left.

So, thoughts? I'm just in shock. It really slapped me in the face and put things into perspective. This crap is so simple and yet we all run a million thoughts and fears through our heads about approaching. Something tells me we're taking this stuff waaay too seriously.
Jeez. And my nephew would just stare, cross eyed, slackjawed, drooling, and breathing heavily. (actually, that's pretty much the truth. I'm not going to use this kid for picking up women until he stops doing that stuff).

Whatever is funnier, I'd just say he either gets it from his uncle, or his mother.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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