"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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4 Year Old Approach

Jon55

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So I was writing a paper at this coffee shop. I did some flirting with the girl behind the register, thought I was hot sh!t. Right. So I go sit down, and a couple of tables next to me is this girl and 2 friends. She's pretty cute, mind you. Suddenly this family comes in, mom & dad + their son and daughter (both are pretty young).

They sit at the table inbetween me and the cute girl. The little boy gets his chair scoots it next to the girl, and just sits there. She starts laughing and says "Hi!"

He's like "Hey."

The parents and the girls friends all think this is funny. The girl asks "So how old are you?"

"4" says the kid. "Aw, that's cute. My name's Ashley" says the girl.

The dad starts telling the kid "What do you say? Tell her your name"

"I'm David."

Then the dad goes up to the kids ear whispers something. The kid turns and asks the girl "Do you come here often?" Everyone laughs.

At this point I'm intrigued. It's amazing that anyone can do this stuff. What's even more amazing is that a 4 YEAR OLD was doing this. 4!! So then she starts asking him what his favorite TV shows are (he watches Mythbusters by the way). They kind of talk, but it's mostly a group talk at this point, the dad giving the son pointers and follow up questions. About 10 minutes later the family left.

So, thoughts? I'm just in shock. It really slapped me in the face and put things into perspective. This crap is so simple and yet we all run a million thoughts and fears through our heads about approaching. Something tells me we're taking this stuff waaay too seriously.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Well, she doesn't have to worry that the 4 year old is after her puzzy. Or a rapist. And he's got nothing to lose status-wise. So, don't beat yourself up, b/c any baby can get any woman's attn.
 

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Yeah, my uncle showed my little 1 year old cousin the blink, and lick. He blinks one eye, and lick his lips at cute girls. Lmao, so funny, atleast his dad is teaching him this stuff.
 

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thedeparted said:
Well, she doesn't have to worry that the 4 year old is after her puzzy. Or a rapist. And he's got nothing to lose status-wise. So, don't beat yourself up, b/c any baby can get any woman's attn.

Oh I wasn't upset over it, just thought it was funny.
 

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Jon55 said:
So I was writing a paper at this coffee shop. I did some flirting with the girl behind the register, thought I was hot sh!t. Right. So I go sit down, and a couple of tables next to me is this girl and 2 friends. She's pretty cute, mind you. Suddenly this family comes in, mom & dad + their son and daughter (both are pretty young).

They sit at the table inbetween me and the cute girl. The little boy gets his chair scoots it next to the girl, and just sits there. She starts laughing and says "Hi!"

He's like "Hey."

The parents and the girls friends all think this is funny. The girl asks "So how old are you?"

"4" says the kid. "Aw, that's cute. My name's Ashley" says the girl.

The dad starts telling the kid "What do you say? Tell her your name"

"I'm David."

Then the dad goes up to the kids ear whispers something. The kid turns and asks the girl "Do you come here often?" Everyone laughs.

At this point I'm intrigued. It's amazing that anyone can do this stuff. What's even more amazing is that a 4 YEAR OLD was doing this. 4!! So then she starts asking him what his favorite TV shows are (he watches Mythbusters by the way). They kind of talk, but it's mostly a group talk at this point, the dad giving the son pointers and follow up questions. About 10 minutes later the family left.

So, thoughts? I'm just in shock. It really slapped me in the face and put things into perspective. This crap is so simple and yet we all run a million thoughts and fears through our heads about approaching. Something tells me we're taking this stuff waaay too seriously.
Jeez. And my nephew would just stare, cross eyed, slackjawed, drooling, and breathing heavily. (actually, that's pretty much the truth. I'm not going to use this kid for picking up women until he stops doing that stuff).

Whatever is funnier, I'd just say he either gets it from his uncle, or his mother.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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