Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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4 Women, 4 boyfriends, WTF?

Don Juanabbe

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I'm Really down and losing faith. I've come a long way, but man, I'm pretty disheartened. I have been somewhat involved with 4 different women on different levels since the beginning of the year.

Girl 1. Tried dating her, fooled around with her a bit. She starts playing games. My head is spinning. So I next her, thinking, wow, this ones a flake. After nexting her, she gets even more aggressive. But anytime I got close to her, she'd push me away. I find out from my friend after the fact, that even though she said she had broken up with her coke snorting, abusive boyfriend, she really had not.

Girl 2. Fooled around with her. She has high interest. She too has a coke snorting, jealous, abusive boyfriend. I walk when it becomes apparent that I'm just there to stroke her bloody ego.

Girl 3. Slept with her, only to find out she has a recent ex husband and the divorce ain't near being final. Bye Bye.

Girl 4. She asks me out. I couldn't make it. I ask her out, get a *****y response. Serious flirtation for a few weeks. I just play it cool, because at this point, I'm getting a little paranoid because of girls 1 to 3. I find out from a friend, that she lives with a guy. Why the fook would she ask me out, flirt, etc. etc? Probably to stroke her own ego. She seemed all nice and innocent too......yeah, right.

Women are seriously fvcked. They're dishonest about having boyfriends. At least Girl 2, I knew she was in a **** relationship. But.....she stays with him.

What the hell am I doing to attract these flighty, cheating, lying hors???

Just a bad run, I guess. But man, what a downer. I can't win. I can't believe just how many women are fooling around on the men, and for some reason, with me! Do I have some sort of sign on my fvucking forehead saying, "hors that want to fool around on your men, I'm available."
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Don Juanabbe

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From the pub scene in my area. Bad, bad luck. Girl 2 was also ****blocking me with girl 4, even though girl 2 is in a realtionship. I think I'm going to try other avenues, all I'm meeting at the pubs are freaks.
 

xblitz44x

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I wouldn't take things so personally. You're meeting people and you're having a string of bad luck. Get to know these people a little better earlier so that you can weed out the one's that are already taken.

Also, definitely try a different place to meet women. Bars seem to attract people who are trying to escape from their issues and problems through alchohol.

If your biggest problem is that you're meeting too many girls who want to have sex with you who happen to have boyfriends, you're doing pretty well.
 

Dust 2 Dust

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Women are like monkeys. They swing from one guy to the next. Before getting rid of a boyfriend they line up auditions with new guys searching for his replacement. The general rule is the first auditioning guy "rebound guy" doesn't keep her.

If they don't have a boyfriend they lose social proof so they will keep an AFC around on their shoulder until something better comes along. Doc Love refers to this as "Boyfriend in the background syndrome."

I guarantee you that all these women are stuck in relationships with guys they have low IL in. Women who are in love with you do not cheat regardless of what any woman or afc on this site will tell you.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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