"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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seymour butts

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I met this girl at work. It was the night shift at a hospital and nothing ever happens because all the patients are asleep so between doing little bits of work we talked for about 2 hours. It was fun and we had chemistry. So at the end of the shift I asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime and she gave me her number.

Problem: this was like 4 weeks ago.

During these four weeks I was still talking to my recent ex and it seemed as if we were going to get back together so I never bothered to call this girl (yes, I am retarded).

I've given up any hope that my ex and I are getting back together and I would really like to contact this other girl. She was just my type.

Is there any way to gracefully make contact with this girl after such a long time?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Just tell her "I'm sorry I haven't called, been trying to work things out with my ex. BUT, it's not going to work out" Women lapp that sh1t up,all will be forgiven.
 
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sodbuster said:
Just tell her "I'm sorry I haven't called, been trying to work things out with my ex. BUT, it's not going to work out" Women lapp that sh1t up,all will be forgiven.
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That's a joke, right?

Why does this chick need to know about the ex? She doesn't need to know anything. He didn't say "I'm going to call you this weekend." He just asked for her number. There were no set plans. And no girl wants to be some guy's rebound. "Hey, my relationship fell apart. So I can hang out now."

He can call/text her like nothing ever happened. No explanation needed. It's not like he stood her up. People get busy sometimes. That's all he needs to say. "Man, I had a busy month."
 
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I agree with Ice. I've been in your position before and I know what you're thinking, but there's nothing wrong with calling her. Say you've been tied up but that she's cute (funny, a dork, interesting, reminds of you kindergarten) or something along those lines that makes her laugh showing your playful side & how you kept her in your mind.

Sounds like you have a good chance. The only thing standing between you and this girl on the phone is yourself.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Just keep it lighthearted and call her. Worst thats going to happen is she is gonna **** test you a little bit. Dont worry, just do it.
 
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