"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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seymour butts

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I met this girl at work. It was the night shift at a hospital and nothing ever happens because all the patients are asleep so between doing little bits of work we talked for about 2 hours. It was fun and we had chemistry. So at the end of the shift I asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime and she gave me her number.

Problem: this was like 4 weeks ago.

During these four weeks I was still talking to my recent ex and it seemed as if we were going to get back together so I never bothered to call this girl (yes, I am retarded).

I've given up any hope that my ex and I are getting back together and I would really like to contact this other girl. She was just my type.

Is there any way to gracefully make contact with this girl after such a long time?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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sodbuster

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Just tell her "I'm sorry I haven't called, been trying to work things out with my ex. BUT, it's not going to work out" Women lapp that sh1t up,all will be forgiven.
 
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sodbuster said:
Just tell her "I'm sorry I haven't called, been trying to work things out with my ex. BUT, it's not going to work out" Women lapp that sh1t up,all will be forgiven.
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That's a joke, right?

Why does this chick need to know about the ex? She doesn't need to know anything. He didn't say "I'm going to call you this weekend." He just asked for her number. There were no set plans. And no girl wants to be some guy's rebound. "Hey, my relationship fell apart. So I can hang out now."

He can call/text her like nothing ever happened. No explanation needed. It's not like he stood her up. People get busy sometimes. That's all he needs to say. "Man, I had a busy month."
 
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I agree with Ice. I've been in your position before and I know what you're thinking, but there's nothing wrong with calling her. Say you've been tied up but that she's cute (funny, a dork, interesting, reminds of you kindergarten) or something along those lines that makes her laugh showing your playful side & how you kept her in your mind.

Sounds like you have a good chance. The only thing standing between you and this girl on the phone is yourself.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Just keep it lighthearted and call her. Worst thats going to happen is she is gonna **** test you a little bit. Dont worry, just do it.
 
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