"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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seymour butts

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I met this girl at work. It was the night shift at a hospital and nothing ever happens because all the patients are asleep so between doing little bits of work we talked for about 2 hours. It was fun and we had chemistry. So at the end of the shift I asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime and she gave me her number.

Problem: this was like 4 weeks ago.

During these four weeks I was still talking to my recent ex and it seemed as if we were going to get back together so I never bothered to call this girl (yes, I am retarded).

I've given up any hope that my ex and I are getting back together and I would really like to contact this other girl. She was just my type.

Is there any way to gracefully make contact with this girl after such a long time?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Just tell her "I'm sorry I haven't called, been trying to work things out with my ex. BUT, it's not going to work out" Women lapp that sh1t up,all will be forgiven.
 
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sodbuster said:
Just tell her "I'm sorry I haven't called, been trying to work things out with my ex. BUT, it's not going to work out" Women lapp that sh1t up,all will be forgiven.
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That's a joke, right?

Why does this chick need to know about the ex? She doesn't need to know anything. He didn't say "I'm going to call you this weekend." He just asked for her number. There were no set plans. And no girl wants to be some guy's rebound. "Hey, my relationship fell apart. So I can hang out now."

He can call/text her like nothing ever happened. No explanation needed. It's not like he stood her up. People get busy sometimes. That's all he needs to say. "Man, I had a busy month."
 
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I agree with Ice. I've been in your position before and I know what you're thinking, but there's nothing wrong with calling her. Say you've been tied up but that she's cute (funny, a dork, interesting, reminds of you kindergarten) or something along those lines that makes her laugh showing your playful side & how you kept her in your mind.

Sounds like you have a good chance. The only thing standing between you and this girl on the phone is yourself.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just keep it lighthearted and call her. Worst thats going to happen is she is gonna **** test you a little bit. Dont worry, just do it.
 
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