"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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4 Rejections Back 2 Back

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Confidence was high today, especially since I've been working out and just looked too fresh today...

Anyway, I approached an HB9 and said "hello" with a smile and she didn't reply and kept walking forward and never turned around... wow

Next I approached HB8 and did the same thing with the same results...

Next I decided to scare the girl (HB8) and I jumped in front of her and introduced myself, she jumped back, then smiled and then said 'ok ok' and then walked away...

Finally, HB9 walking out of my apartment complex...

ME: Wow, you're pretty funky huh ?
HER: *Confused Look*
ME: *chuckling to myself*
HER: *Rolls eyes*
ME: LoL later

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Dunno why I posted this, some girls are just bvtchees and I find it funny beacuse they are so engrained to ignore everyone, its hilarious. Shields are super high in this city especially when on the street, wow the last girl was a real beeitch, that one actually made me tad annoyed


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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well done for trying though, I havn't the guts to do that so it's good to see someone actually *cold* approaching women!
 

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Keep it up yo, just the fact you have 4 HB8s to chat with in a day is lucky for you. See Location <=== ;)
 

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Your Daily Horoscope.

The mojo section of your chart is block today. Expect women to be unapproachable. Avoid chainsaws and other heavy logging equipment. Lucky number: 5.
 

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I see around 100 - 300 girls that are approachable (at least 7's) during an average day...

Approaching 4 isn't anything special, i haven't seriously approached in almost 9 months because well I am a habitual cheater and my girl dosen't deserve that :eek:opsss:

LMAO @ Charmed, Alaska ?? Ouch bro, u better take advantage when u see one !



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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Cod3r,

They saying here goes, "In alaska you dont lose your girl, you lose your turn."
 

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LMAO, that's classic and even funnier because i'm sure its true



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ya well man girls have a lot of reasons to be skeptical about strangers

nothing new

just try a less alerting approach
 

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Cod3r said:
I see around 100 - 300 girls that are approachable (at least 7's) during an average day...
where the **** do you hang? I haven't seen that many in my entire life.
 

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"Wow, you're pretty funky huh?"

Lol, what were you thinking? Were you high?

Scaring will only work if you know the chick.. unless you are incredibly smooth. I mean what would you think of some chick you don't even know jumping out and trying to scare you. You would think WTF? This girl is a nut.

As for the other two girls that turned you down after a "Hello" they just seem like *****es, forget them. Maybe you should of followed it up with something. I mean did you honestly thing would run with the ball after hello? That is YOUR job.

Man: Hello.
Woman: Why hello there. My name is Rebecca want to come back to my place and ****?

..kind of thing doesn't really happen in reality. Wouldn't it be great though? Haha.

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"Wow, you're pretty funky huh?"

Lol, what were you thinking? Were you high?

Scaring will only work if you know the chick.. unless you are incredibly smooth. I mean what would you think of some chick you don't even know jumping out and trying to scare you. You would think WTF? This girl is a nut.

As for the other two girls that turned you down after a "Hello" they just seem like *****es, forget them. Maybe you should of followed it up with something. I mean did you honestly thing would run with the ball after hello? That is YOUR job.

Man: Hello.
Woman: Why hello there. My name is Rebecca want to come back to my place and ****?

..kind of thing doesn't really happen in reality. Wouldn't it be great though? Haha.
Wasn't really tryna pick them up, juss playin around bro... the last one was a beitch IMO tho, the way she rolled her eyes, if she was a dog I'd beat her in the head with a rolled up newspaper :yes:

where the **** do you hang? I haven't seen that many in my entire life.
Middle of New York City


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To be honest, cold approaching works best if you smile at the person, and then start talking AFTER she smiles back. If not, they're either in b!tchshield mode or not in the mood. It happens, every so often a girl will hit on me and I'll ignore it cus I have **** to do. Every so often I'll hit on a girl and she'll ignore me. I just assume she has **** to do and I move on.
 

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To be honest, cold approaching works best if you smile at the person, and then start talking AFTER she smiles back.
That's a great tip, look at that... I just learned something... i'm all smiles !


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Cod3r said:
Middle of New York City


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I'm in the city once in a while, and yeah, there are ALOT of good looking girls there. Not as many as you describe though, not approachable ones.

Any specific spot you're at?



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I don't know where you're at but....

I live in an apartment complex with students from Columbia, NYU, Baruch, ect...

Also, everytime I enter the subway I'm seeing at least 10 or so approachable females. During the course of a day and school, another 100 or so... Bryant Park, Tribeca, East Village.... where aren't HB's ? lol

I would even say 100-300 approachable females is an under-estimate


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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Cod3r said:
I don't know where you're at but....

I live in an apartment complex with students from Columbia, NYU, Baruch, ect...

Also, everytime I enter the subway I'm seeing at least 10 or so approachable females. During the course of a day and school, another 100 or so... Bryant Park, Tribeca, East Village.... where aren't HB's ? lol

I would even say 100-300 approachable females is an under-estimate


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You're in school? That makes all the difference. Thanks for the reply, it clears up the numbers mystery.


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lol...i think that laughing 2 urself part sealed the deal. Like maybe she thought you were playing a joke on her or something. W/e doesnt matter, her loss. She could have been a LR but she missed her opportunity to be written about on the board, lol.

Whats happenin with ur approach journal thingy coder?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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