Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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3rd date with brazilian this weekend

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First two dates sucked. Just met over coffee the first time, went out to eat the 2nd time. She has some stupid curfew so we couldn't go to the movie after dinner I just dropped her off. Not even a kiss yet, so I nexted her.

But, she just emailed and invited me to get together again Saturday.

She lives 45 min away and we have met in her town both times. I need to lure her out of her town closer to mine so we can get back to my place.

How should I go about replying to her invitation for Saturday, and let her know I want her to meet me closer to my town?

She doesn't know the area, and I don't know how far she is allowed to drive she has these weird host parents. I'd like to welcome her to the USA sosuave style.

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I've been talking to this chick from portugal and it turns out she lives a little over an hour away from me so I've decided not to pursue her:( In your case, if you can get her to meet you somewhere closer to your town, then tell her (when u actually meet up) you'll drive her to your place and take her back to wherever you met up later.
 
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So I'm thinking I'll reply to her "hey blah blah blah Saturday sounds good let's meet at ...........because I don't feel like driving all the way out there..." or something...or should I even mention showing her my place?

This is where I'm not sure what to say.
 

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Find out if she feels a little oppressed or over guarded by her U.S. parents. If so, get her in on a plot to sneak away to your place. Conspiracy is fun, and Brazillian girls are very adventurous, in bed and out.
 
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Dongfu said:
Find out if she feels a little oppressed or over guarded by her U.S. parents. If so, get her in on a plot to sneak away to your place. Conspiracy is fun, and Brazillian girls are very adventurous, in bed and out.
Yeah, she doesn't like them she told me that several times.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My Name is Nobody said:
Yeah, she doesn't like them she told me that several times.
There you go. You can work together towards a common goal, getting her away for a while, long enough for you to hit it. You might get one of her GF's to cover for her.
 
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There you go. You can work together towards a common goal, getting her away for a while, long enough for you to hit it. You might get one of her GF's to cover for her.
Alright, I replied and let her know I feel like meeting somewhere else, and asked if her host parents let her get out of the area. If she says no, I'm not sure I'm accepting the date.
 

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It sounds like you've decided how much energy she is worth. Good enough.
 

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Lesson #1... When going out on a first date with a girl, and if your attracted to her than you kiss her. Be a man. I can't believe you went out on two dates with this girl and have not kissed her. You have some ground to make up and you better be aggressive with her this time.
 

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You know what part of your problem is MNIN. You are one of the few guys on here, constantly going out on dates but your constantly asking for advice on silly little things, then alot of the time, the only guys who will respond to "how should I respond to her txt / email" are from guys with LESS experience than you.

Instead of learning on your own, your taking advice from guys who for all we know are just keyboard jockeys. Use your experience to your advantage and run with it.

It will give you more self confidence in the future as you do it on your own.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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lookyoung said:
Lesson #1... When going out on a first date with a girl, and if your attracted to her than you kiss her. Be a man. I can't believe you went out on two dates with this girl and have not kissed her. You have some ground to make up and you better be aggressive with her this time.

I didn't want to try the kiss on the first coffee meet. We had plans to go to a movie the 2nd date. Then at dinner she said she had some curfew and couldn't see the movie. I was annoyed she had to change the plans and took her a$$ home and dropped her off.

I'm leaning towards not going out with her again.
 
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Well I just heard back from her she said

"Yes they let me leave but they have to know where I am going.

What are you up to?"

LOL it looks like she's on to my game! I need damage control.. help me out guys
 
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MacAvoy said:
You know what part of your problem is MNIN. You are one of the few guys on here, constantly going out on dates but your constantly asking for advice on silly little things, then alot of the time, the only guys who will respond to "how should I respond to her txt / email" are from guys with LESS experience than you.

Instead of learning on your own, your taking advice from guys who for all we know are just keyboard jockeys. Use your experience to your advantage and run with it.

It will give you more self confidence in the future as you do it on your own.

Well Mac, it looks like you have a lot of experience, so what would you say to this girl who just asked me "what am I up to"?

I don't think she is inquiring about what I'm "up to". She wants to know why I am luring her out of her town! LOL I don't think honesty is the best approach here, or is it? Who knows.
 

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I think Dongoron hit the nail on the head in your other thread. I think you need to do a couple of "hit & runs" so you can build up some skin and not get sucked into all the drama with these women. I think you would gain alot from doing 3-4 hit & runs.

Once you bang them, drop them, cut all contact and focuss on your next hit. There is nothing wrong with low quality/psycho women if all you are planning on doing is hitting it & not getting emotionally involved. They are ideal actually cuz they are likely easier to hit.

Secondly the advice that I'm going to offer you is stop txting / emailing these women. Your givin them too much communication, your setting yourself up to be an emotional tampon, you should only be calling to set up dates. You do the rest of your communicating on the date.
 
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MacAvoy said:
Once you bang them, drop them, cut all contact and focuss on your next hit. There is nothing wrong with low quality/psycho women if all you are planning on doing is hitting it & not getting emotionally involved. They are ideal actually cuz they are likely easier to hit.

That makes a hell of a lot of sense... After I bang them, I always try and go for a relationship. And most of the time that doesn't end well and hinders my progress. I hate to think that I must act that way to progress in this life of being a DJ but that could be the reality.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Once you get this part down patt, then you can move on to the next level (which may or may not include going the relationship road) but you have to learn how to walk before you can run. Right now your doing an awesome job crawling that you want to skip walking and start running.
 
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Alright I hate doing these play by plays but I let her know I want her to meet me close so I can show her my place.

We'll see how she responds honesty is the best policy :)
 
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