"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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35-42 yo chick at my gym is smoking hot, I'm 25, what to do?

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Last Man Standing said:
OMG!!! You're a reverse pervert!!!!

Somebody call "Adult Protection Services" (APS) and report this guy!!!!
america is the land of 180 degrees. by this i mean if it isn't accepted in america it is probably cool in most places, but if it is accepted in america it is probably considered vulgar and odd everywhere else. roman polanski had his way with a 13 year old and was enemy number 1 in america. he flees to france and becomes "roman the great".

http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=950DE4DB1339F932A35752C0A96F948260
oh, those wacky french. :whistle:
Sexy and sullen, Lili wears a size 36 ''fillette'' (young girl), but her breasts are already those of a woman - as her low-cut outfit announces. Anxious to lose her virginity, she flirts with Maurice (Etienne Chicot), a jaded playboy of around 40, but only to a certain point. Reveling in her new desirability, Lili alienates her family, exasperates Maurice and finally succeeds in her goal of sexual initiation.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Drum what's your problem? You are accusing people of being afc's when YOUR the one "Having," to listen to women and there "Creepy," problems. I know your a fitness trainer but still your the one that women go to to talk about there problems so dont accuse someone you dont know about being an AFC. Plus you say you will feel "Bad," if you broke up someone...how will you feel if some guy fvcked a girl you were going out with....will you still feel bad?

I say just go for it and be direct....ask her what she is doing friday night she blows you off hey at least you tried if you get in then make another post about what you should do on the date, BUT if she blows you off then Bass can listen to her complain about some guy hitting on her... I mean crazy that guys wanna fvck women...we live in a crazy world dont we!
 

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D&B, remember that you're in a quite different position to us, so your rule doesn't apply to most people. The gym is your workplace. "Don't sh!t where you eat" applies to you. If you try to pick up there, as a personal trainer, you'll be the creep. The gym is more like a fun/social/hobby place for the rest. I can't see what's wrong with initiating something with women there.

Btw I concur with j0n024. Why the hell are you listening to those broads biatching about guys hitting on them and taking them seriously? That's what chicks do. They're subcommunicating how much attention they're getting. When they try that around me, I just say "yeah yeah, I'm sure you got a lot of attention there" and change the subject. Listening to that crap is the job of the emotion tampon AFCs. Not ours.
 

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thanx jitterbug I think your the ONLY one that does understand where I coming from about the whole situation and your right the gym is my workplace so I see things different than the rest of you. I guess I'm offering a different perspective.

I have to listen to women complain because its up to me to talk to members that harass other members or report it to my supervisors. I don't listen to them because I'm such a nice guy lol.

how will you feel if some guy fvcked a girl you were going out with....will you still feel bad?
ummm yea dude I would.
 

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Drum&Bass said:
I have to listen to women complain because its up to me to talk to members that harass other members or report it to my supervisors. I don't listen to them because I'm such a nice guy lol.
I see. Good that you're getting paid for it. :D
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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