30 days without porn, I did it and so should you

[r0cky]

After listening to a motivational speaker talk about discipline and how its necessary to attain self esteem, I came to the conclusion that I should quit watching porn forever. Why? Well as the speaker said, one can not have self esteem until one is holding the steering wheel of his life. Negative habits will not let you control your life, THEY are in control of your life. Negative habits only provide a short term comfort in exchange of long term pain, if we recognize this then we should accept the fact that our negative habits are in control of our lives. They are making us do something we know we shouldn't do. And this includes routinely watching porn, smoking, being disorderly, etc.

My story. I should probably be considered a porn addict as i have been watching porn once a day on average for the past 2 years. 31 days ago I decided to stop watching porn forever. I celebrated each day that I didnt watch it as a winning day. I didnt feel much difference in my self esteem... until the 6 or 7th day. Then I started realizing how much more motivated i was to meet girls and to be social. Because now I couldn't rely on porn to become horny, and being horny is as powerful motivator as actually getting laid. See when I had porn, I didnt care if i met girls because I could just watch porn if i didnt meet anyone, so I barely put much effort into getting horny with girls. But now I dont have any other way of getting horny, so Im forced to go out, dance and grind on girls, push for the sexual talk, and escalate. And it doesn't feel like work, it feels as it if its coming instintively. Plus I have the energy of ten horses. I've noticed other changes in my behavior such as being more in the moment, and being more disciplined in other areas of my life such as jogging, reading, work, and i even joined a soccer club.

So there you go, this is my story of how getting rid of porn had the unintended consequence of making me a better person. I'm never going to watch porn again, I might see naked girls on tv or magazines but thats as far as i'll go.

 

[matthew98]

After listening to a motivational speaker talk about discipline and how its necessary to attain self esteem, I came to the conclusion that I should quit watching porn forever. Why? Well as the speaker said, one can not have self esteem until one is holding the steering wheel of his life. Negative habits will not let you control your life, THEY are in control of your life. Negative habits only provide a short term comfort in exchange of long term pain, if we recognize this then we should accept the fact that our negative habits are in control of our lives. They are making us do something we know we shouldn't do. And this includes routinely watching porn, smoking, being disorderly, etc.

My story. I should probably be considered a porn addict as i have been watching porn once a day on average for the past 2 years. 31 days ago I decided to stop watching porn forever. I celebrated each day that I didnt watch it as a winning day. I didnt feel much difference in my self esteem... until the 6 or 7th day. Then I started realizing how much more motivated i was to meet girls and to be social. Because now I couldn't rely on porn to become horny, and being horny is as powerful motivator as actually getting laid. See when I had porn, I didnt care if i met girls because I could just watch porn if i didnt meet anyone, so I barely put much effort into getting horny with girls. But now I dont have any other way of getting horny, so Im forced to go out, dance and grind on girls, push for the sexual talk, and escalate. And it doesn't feel like work, it feels as it if its coming instintively. Plus I have the energy of ten horses. I've noticed other changes in my behavior such as being more in the moment, and being more disciplined in other areas of my life such as jogging, reading, work, and i even joined a soccer club.

So there you go, this is my story of how getting rid of porn had the unintended consequence of making me a better person. I'm never going to watch porn again, I might see naked girls on tv or magazines but thats as far as i'll go.

Good job bro! I'm going to do the same.

 

[r0cky]

Did you get laid after those 30 days?

I got laid before i started this but not with the girls i wanted. I'm still working on that, the difference is that before i didnt care who i f**ked, now i do and im working towards that purpose.

 

[bish0p]

I remember I went without masturbating for 2 or 3 weeks a few years ago. I went to the club and started dancing with this fat chick and I came in my pants.

 

[r0cky]

I remember I went without masturbating for 2 or 3 weeks a few years ago. I went to the club and started dancing with this fat chick and I came in my pants.

Lol. Thats just funny.
I think masturbation is good for you as long as you use your mind instead of porn to get horny.

 

[Zarky]

2 years LOL.. I've been wankin' to porn for 20+ years. Let us know where you're at in another month.

 

[Cure]

I quit porn about 6 months ago, I've relapsed a couple of times but generally I do good.

I managed it, not through will power per se, but through limiting access. I only ever use public computers, so its impossible to look at porn! job done.

Cure.

 

[Hakuna]

lol wow I have to admit, that was pretty motivational. I know exactly what you mean by celebrating a "winning day." Setting goals for yourself and then being able to achieve them really makes you feel like your making progress in life and keeps you from getting lazy

 

[snowdog]

I'm sorry, but if you watch porn (almost) every day, you should find some hobbies.

I remember I went without masturbating for 2 or 3 weeks a few years ago. I went to the club and started dancing with this fat chick and I came in my pants.

That's some funny sh#t.

 

[mtlwlu]

I dont see the problem with watching porn at all, I mean if its ALL you do then maybe but once or twice a day isnt that big of a problem. You learn new stuff, see hot chicks, get ideas etc...

The only good thing I can think of going without porn for 30 days is that, there will be a whole bunch of new videos on that site that I havent seen yet...

 

[Accension]

No offense guys, but there's nothing wrong with porn.
It's just that you should have a woman instead of your hand and by eliminating your hand it's not necessarily going to bring you closer to a woman unless you go get one...

 

[r0cky]

You guys are missing the point, this is about more than just getting rid of porn, its about getting rid of bad habits in order to build discipline and self esteem.

 

[mtlwlu]

I have self esteem and control, I just like watching porn. I do relatively well with the ladies, I dont see a problem with enjoying porn at all.

 

[r0cky]

I have self esteem and control, I just like watching porn. I do relatively well with the ladies, I dont see a problem with enjoying porn at all.

Nobody said you had low self-esteem my man, everybody is different and we all have different imperfections. BTW stop trying to make this about yourself.

 

[the305]

Hah, i love porn

 

[Black suit]

Haven't porn for 9 years now. Occational flicks every once in a while and /b/ don't count.

Most porn is so ****ing boring.

 

[ARrocket]

Agreed girls will think you're a perv if you watch porn, better to read a good story or replay past experiences in your head, anyone know a good story site by the way? Askjolene.com has good ones but it gets annoying with all the nasty sh!it mixed up into it.

I haven't been there in at least 2 years, but ****ical.com had some good stuff.

Masturbate to women you wanna get with...it'll definitely further motivate you.

 

[F!DELITY]

To the OP, this is a great inspirational thread.

I am a few days into a porn free life, and you do feel sharper with the ladies, and generally hornier!!

there is definitely more positives than negatives on dropping porn! :woo:

 

[Huffman]

Been there, done that, got the T-Shirt.

 

[johnjones81]

Porn is so bad but

I know its like a hulk but everything in this life has a solution and you can do a schedule either watch porn once a month or once a year now im trying to resist it and how come it effects the relationship and my future life and etc?