"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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30 days without porn, I did it and so should you

corrector

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Congrat to the OP.

I've stopped looking at porn since April 14, 2013, and I can tell you that it has not helped me get another girlfriend. I plan to start looking at porn again from Sept 25, 2013 forward if I have no girlfriend.

I have a no-contact rule with my ex-gf that if I contact her then I'll ban myself for 7 years of looking at porn. That was effective in helping me move on.

The type of porn I look at mainly is escort ads. It just turns me on to see escorts, and the idea that I can call them to set up an appointment. Even during my period of abstaining I keep getting flashback of some of the ads.

Again, if staying away from porn helped in any way shape or form in getting a woman then I would ban it for life. My experience shows otherwise and any self-control in this area, even if I can stop viewing "escort ads", has not helped.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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JoeMarron

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Thread is old as hell but Im sure more people will jump in. I've probably watched less porn in my entire life than most dudes watch in a day. Never saw the allure. Most of it is more comedic than arousing.
 
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