"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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30 days without porn, I did it and so should you

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Congrat to the OP.

I've stopped looking at porn since April 14, 2013, and I can tell you that it has not helped me get another girlfriend. I plan to start looking at porn again from Sept 25, 2013 forward if I have no girlfriend.

I have a no-contact rule with my ex-gf that if I contact her then I'll ban myself for 7 years of looking at porn. That was effective in helping me move on.

The type of porn I look at mainly is escort ads. It just turns me on to see escorts, and the idea that I can call them to set up an appointment. Even during my period of abstaining I keep getting flashback of some of the ads.

Again, if staying away from porn helped in any way shape or form in getting a woman then I would ban it for life. My experience shows otherwise and any self-control in this area, even if I can stop viewing "escort ads", has not helped.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Thread is old as hell but Im sure more people will jump in. I've probably watched less porn in my entire life than most dudes watch in a day. Never saw the allure. Most of it is more comedic than arousing.
 
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