"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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30 Day No Approach challenge!!!

skinnyguy

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I believe some guys would benefit from this.

The 30 day challenge would involve NO online dating, no going to clubs/bars,
and no texting biches.

Believe it or not, online dating is actually making you less attractive and making your skills worse with women. I have realized that typing to a woman I have never met has given me this beta mindset that I may never be able to shrug off. It has made me bypass talking to women in real life and I started PREFERRING to message them online. I soon realized this was toxic and that I needed to do something.

If you think you can make women a lower priority in your life, you need to man up and stop doing these things. I realized that going to clubs made me a weak, beta male over the years because getting shut down killed my confidence. If I instead spent my time focusing on my career, I'd probably have a freaking PhD by now.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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If this breaks you down it simply means your mindset isn't strong enough, work on it. You let it control you instead of you controlling it.

Avoiding it is one way to solve it, but isn't this the same as running away from the challenge?
 

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skinnyguy said:
I believe some guys would benefit from this.

The 30 day challenge would involve NO online dating, no going to clubs/bars,
and no texting biches.
Last time I've tried online dating was in February, 2012. This is where I met my soulmate and eventually dumped her. Haven't been on it since.

skinnyguy said:
Believe it or not, online dating is actually making you less attractive and making your skills worse with women.
Thought it depends on what profile pic you have.

skinnyguy said:
I have realized that typing to a woman I have never met has given me this beta mindset that I may never be able to shrug off. It has made me bypass talking to women in real life and I started PREFERRING to message them online. I soon realized this was toxic and that I needed to do something.
The problem is not about typing them, the problem is the extremely low response rate or lack of attraction if you do get a reply. Hot guys get messages sent to them despite having lame profiles.

skinnyguy said:
If you think you can make women a lower priority in your life, you need to man up and stop doing these things.
Women don't have any priority in my life right now. That doesn't mean I have met another soulmate. They may soon since other sides are not working out that well so maybe I may get lucky in this area again.

skinnyguy said:
I realized that going to clubs made me a weak, beta male over the years because getting shut down killed my confidence. If I instead spent my time focusing on my career, I'd probably have a freaking PhD by now.
Getting shut down killed your confidence, not going to clubs or trying. You are claiming to be a beta male because you don't have the looks that women are desperate for, so essentially this becomes a "look" issue. Then alpha males are just hot guys, beta males are average to below average looking dudes because how a woman responds to you makes you an alpha or beta.

Even if you focused on your career you still have to deal with women. It will bother you that you are not getting laid while your classmates are. You may have an obsessive crush with some of your classmates and think about her, etc... Still sucks either way.
 
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