"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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30 Day No Approach challenge!!!

skinnyguy

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I believe some guys would benefit from this.

The 30 day challenge would involve NO online dating, no going to clubs/bars,
and no texting biches.

Believe it or not, online dating is actually making you less attractive and making your skills worse with women. I have realized that typing to a woman I have never met has given me this beta mindset that I may never be able to shrug off. It has made me bypass talking to women in real life and I started PREFERRING to message them online. I soon realized this was toxic and that I needed to do something.

If you think you can make women a lower priority in your life, you need to man up and stop doing these things. I realized that going to clubs made me a weak, beta male over the years because getting shut down killed my confidence. If I instead spent my time focusing on my career, I'd probably have a freaking PhD by now.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If this breaks you down it simply means your mindset isn't strong enough, work on it. You let it control you instead of you controlling it.

Avoiding it is one way to solve it, but isn't this the same as running away from the challenge?
 

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skinnyguy said:
I believe some guys would benefit from this.

The 30 day challenge would involve NO online dating, no going to clubs/bars,
and no texting biches.
Last time I've tried online dating was in February, 2012. This is where I met my soulmate and eventually dumped her. Haven't been on it since.

skinnyguy said:
Believe it or not, online dating is actually making you less attractive and making your skills worse with women.
Thought it depends on what profile pic you have.

skinnyguy said:
I have realized that typing to a woman I have never met has given me this beta mindset that I may never be able to shrug off. It has made me bypass talking to women in real life and I started PREFERRING to message them online. I soon realized this was toxic and that I needed to do something.
The problem is not about typing them, the problem is the extremely low response rate or lack of attraction if you do get a reply. Hot guys get messages sent to them despite having lame profiles.

skinnyguy said:
If you think you can make women a lower priority in your life, you need to man up and stop doing these things.
Women don't have any priority in my life right now. That doesn't mean I have met another soulmate. They may soon since other sides are not working out that well so maybe I may get lucky in this area again.

skinnyguy said:
I realized that going to clubs made me a weak, beta male over the years because getting shut down killed my confidence. If I instead spent my time focusing on my career, I'd probably have a freaking PhD by now.
Getting shut down killed your confidence, not going to clubs or trying. You are claiming to be a beta male because you don't have the looks that women are desperate for, so essentially this becomes a "look" issue. Then alpha males are just hot guys, beta males are average to below average looking dudes because how a woman responds to you makes you an alpha or beta.

Even if you focused on your career you still have to deal with women. It will bother you that you are not getting laid while your classmates are. You may have an obsessive crush with some of your classmates and think about her, etc... Still sucks either way.
 
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