"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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3 months with the GF and already thinking whats the point?!

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bobafatt said:
Had like 10 missed calls and a text off her today. She was concerned that i hadnt contacted her etc etc. She even called my mom to find out where i was! I have just answered her call again told her i was fine and hope you are too, she tried to pick another fight but i just brushed it off and told her to leave it, reminded her of all the stuff she had said._.She blamed it on drink and that she didnt mean it! Tried to say i said hurtful things but couldnt remember...Haha! She told me to pack up her things, told her already done and will leave in back garden. She asked if that was it then, isaid yes and goodbye _ end of convo
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Good man.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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soulforge said:
Dude this woman sounds like major trouble.. Even though you both may have spent lots of time together, trust me woman can still easily keep another man in the loop..

Her chitty behaviour towards you, only 3 months in, is a huge red flag..

She is mentioning other dudes, she is TESTING you.. to see of you cave in to her frame.. this is DREAD tactics she is applying..

Her bichy behaviour could also suggest there is another dog in the yard..

Either way, what really matter is this.. Do you really want to continue being treated like this?

Chances are things will only get worse.. Personally if a chick told me there are other dudes she is interested in..

I would immediately drop her like a sack of spanners!
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This sounds like Randall's girlfriend. She goes straight from Chad to nice guy (Randall) and then does shady stuff right off the bat like keeping her relationship status hidden on Facebook whilst adding and flirting with random dudes. (And re-adding exes.)

Randalls case and this guys case are just two examples of why you shouldn't jump into a relationship so quickly. It comes across like one or both of you are really needy in some form, that you need a relationship. Most normal healthy people wouldnt jump into exclusivity so fast, if they had good self esteem.

These dudes jump in fast and look what happens-- their girls pull shady sh!t. I believe that's a sign of a lack of interest. Maybe Randall and this guy try to lock down their women to a relationship quickly, because they fear women won't want them once the woman hangs around for awhile and gets to know the real them. So they lock the woman down quickly-- out of fear of losing her. And what kind of woman falls prey to this? Dysfunctional women who don't have their needs met. Which is why these women ultimately either check-out of the relationship, and/or cheat once they get their fill of what they wanted.
 
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cityboy989 said:
This sounds like Randall's girlfriend. She goes straight from Chad to nice guy (Randall) and then does shady stuff right off the bat like keeping her relationship status hidden on Facebook whilst adding and flirting with random dudes. (And re-adding exes.)

Randalls case and this guys case are just two examples of why you shouldn't jump into a relationship so quickly. It comes across like one or both of you are really needy in some form, that you need a relationship. Most normal healthy people wouldnt jump into exclusivity so fast, if they had good self esteem.

These dudes jump in fast and look what happens-- their girls pull shady sh!t. I believe that's a sign of a lack of interest. Maybe Randall and this guy try to lock down their women to a relationship quickly, because they fear women won't want them once the woman hangs around for awhile and gets to know the real them. So they lock the woman down quickly-- out of fear of losing her. And what kind of woman falls prey to this? Dysfunctional women who don't have their needs met. Which is why these women ultimately either check-out of the relationship, and/or cheat once they get their fill of what they wanted.
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3 months is nothing man.. going exclusive GF and BF this soon is pretty risky.. you cannot truly get to know a person that soon..

People are generally on there best behaviour 3 month stage.. There are some very needy people outhere who are not happy unless they are constantly in relationships!

I just dumped a chick for playing games and wanting commitment only 2 fuking months in lol WTF
 
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When you seriously get burnt once or twice in life.. you realise never to rush into relationship.. people are clever at hiding who they REALLY are..

But that mask eventually slips!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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cityboy989 said:
This sounds like Randall's girlfriend. She goes straight from Chad to nice guy (Randall) and then does shady stuff right off the bat like keeping her relationship status hidden on Facebook whilst adding and flirting with random dudes. (And re-adding exes.)

Randalls case and this guys case are just two examples of why you shouldn't jump into a relationship so quickly. It comes across like one or both of you are really needy in some form, that you need a relationship. Most normal healthy people wouldnt jump into exclusivity so fast, if they had good self esteem.

These dudes jump in fast and look what happens-- their girls pull shady sh!t. I believe that's a sign of a lack of interest. Maybe Randall and this guy try to lock down their women to a relationship quickly, because they fear women won't want them once the woman hangs around for awhile and gets to know the real them. So they lock the woman down quickly-- out of fear of losing her. And what kind of woman falls prey to this? Dysfunctional women who don't have their needs met. Which is why these women ultimately either check-out of the relationship, and/or cheat once they get their fill of what they wanted.
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Although i disagree i understand what you are saying. I have been with chicks in the past and the last thing on my mind is a relationship, i know the value of my time and how much i am worth as a person. I know that no matter what in life the only person to make myself happy is me, so to say that i got into a relationship early was down to low self esteem, needy or because i was worried she may wonder else is completely over thinking the situation.

Lesson learnt though...next time if she looks and sounds too good to be true...she probably is!
 
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