"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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3 months with the GF and already thinking whats the point?!

Dash Riprock

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Had like 10 missed calls and a text off her today. She was concerned that i hadnt contacted her etc etc. She even called my mom to find out where i was! I have just answered her call again told her i was fine and hope you are too, she tried to pick another fight but i just brushed it off and told her to leave it, reminded her of all the stuff she had said._.She blamed it on drink and that she didnt mean it! Tried to say i said hurtful things but couldnt remember...Haha! She told me to pack up her things, told her already done and will leave in back garden. She asked if that was it then, isaid yes and goodbye _ end of convo
Good man.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dude this woman sounds like major trouble.. Even though you both may have spent lots of time together, trust me woman can still easily keep another man in the loop..

Her chitty behaviour towards you, only 3 months in, is a huge red flag..

She is mentioning other dudes, she is TESTING you.. to see of you cave in to her frame.. this is DREAD tactics she is applying..

Her bichy behaviour could also suggest there is another dog in the yard..

Either way, what really matter is this.. Do you really want to continue being treated like this?

Chances are things will only get worse.. Personally if a chick told me there are other dudes she is interested in..

I would immediately drop her like a sack of spanners!
This sounds like Randall's girlfriend. She goes straight from Chad to nice guy (Randall) and then does shady stuff right off the bat like keeping her relationship status hidden on Facebook whilst adding and flirting with random dudes. (And re-adding exes.)

Randalls case and this guys case are just two examples of why you shouldn't jump into a relationship so quickly. It comes across like one or both of you are really needy in some form, that you need a relationship. Most normal healthy people wouldnt jump into exclusivity so fast, if they had good self esteem.

These dudes jump in fast and look what happens-- their girls pull shady sh!t. I believe that's a sign of a lack of interest. Maybe Randall and this guy try to lock down their women to a relationship quickly, because they fear women won't want them once the woman hangs around for awhile and gets to know the real them. So they lock the woman down quickly-- out of fear of losing her. And what kind of woman falls prey to this? Dysfunctional women who don't have their needs met. Which is why these women ultimately either check-out of the relationship, and/or cheat once they get their fill of what they wanted.
 
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This sounds like Randall's girlfriend. She goes straight from Chad to nice guy (Randall) and then does shady stuff right off the bat like keeping her relationship status hidden on Facebook whilst adding and flirting with random dudes. (And re-adding exes.)

Randalls case and this guys case are just two examples of why you shouldn't jump into a relationship so quickly. It comes across like one or both of you are really needy in some form, that you need a relationship. Most normal healthy people wouldnt jump into exclusivity so fast, if they had good self esteem.

These dudes jump in fast and look what happens-- their girls pull shady sh!t. I believe that's a sign of a lack of interest. Maybe Randall and this guy try to lock down their women to a relationship quickly, because they fear women won't want them once the woman hangs around for awhile and gets to know the real them. So they lock the woman down quickly-- out of fear of losing her. And what kind of woman falls prey to this? Dysfunctional women who don't have their needs met. Which is why these women ultimately either check-out of the relationship, and/or cheat once they get their fill of what they wanted.

3 months is nothing man.. going exclusive GF and BF this soon is pretty risky.. you cannot truly get to know a person that soon..

People are generally on there best behaviour 3 month stage.. There are some very needy people outhere who are not happy unless they are constantly in relationships!

I just dumped a chick for playing games and wanting commitment only 2 fuking months in lol WTF
 

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When you seriously get burnt once or twice in life.. you realise never to rush into relationship.. people are clever at hiding who they REALLY are..

But that mask eventually slips!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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This sounds like Randall's girlfriend. She goes straight from Chad to nice guy (Randall) and then does shady stuff right off the bat like keeping her relationship status hidden on Facebook whilst adding and flirting with random dudes. (And re-adding exes.)

Randalls case and this guys case are just two examples of why you shouldn't jump into a relationship so quickly. It comes across like one or both of you are really needy in some form, that you need a relationship. Most normal healthy people wouldnt jump into exclusivity so fast, if they had good self esteem.

These dudes jump in fast and look what happens-- their girls pull shady sh!t. I believe that's a sign of a lack of interest. Maybe Randall and this guy try to lock down their women to a relationship quickly, because they fear women won't want them once the woman hangs around for awhile and gets to know the real them. So they lock the woman down quickly-- out of fear of losing her. And what kind of woman falls prey to this? Dysfunctional women who don't have their needs met. Which is why these women ultimately either check-out of the relationship, and/or cheat once they get their fill of what they wanted.
Although i disagree i understand what you are saying. I have been with chicks in the past and the last thing on my mind is a relationship, i know the value of my time and how much i am worth as a person. I know that no matter what in life the only person to make myself happy is me, so to say that i got into a relationship early was down to low self esteem, needy or because i was worried she may wonder else is completely over thinking the situation.

Lesson learnt though...next time if she looks and sounds too good to be true...she probably is!
 
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