"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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2nd date or next?

Broo

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Been getting mixed signals from a girl I like recently, she's from the highschool I went to, but we recently got to know each other because of our line of work. She would act flakey when I ask her out. I felt that she wasn't just into me. But recently things started changing because I wasn't pursuing her as much as before. I asked her out again and she said she'll update me.

At this point I wasn't really sure if she was going to text or not. I asked one week before, and we were supposed to go out the following Thursday. She texted Monday afternoon, and told me she was free. I told her I'd pick her up at her house, and she agreed and gave me her address.

I do know that her attraction is low, because she kept on testing me, because I was acting like such a p*ssy all this time, and was chasing after her. I read somewhere that a woman would sometimes change up the plans because of her low interest. She wanted to meet outside instead. I didn't flinch I told her don't worry she'll be ready by the time I get to her house by 7pm. She then asked if I was sure because her mom wouldn't let her go out anymore if she got to her house by dinner time. I told her, "if you're mom's not going to let you go out, I'll ask your mom out instead!" It worked! She suddenly changed her mind. And next thing, she asks me if she could park her car at my house. She then came to my house yesterday night and I drove to our date.

During the date I was reading her levels of interest, I was a bit put off at first because she kept on checking her cellphone. I told her jokingly to put it away and then she did. I was asking questions and she kept on talking the whole date and I listened, she was sharing stuff about her family, friends and our conversation was very light and fun. When she got home she told me she enjoyed our conversation yesterday night. I haven't talked to her since last night, and I'm still contemplating whether go out with her again or not. Am i just reading too much into this or do I just go out with her and try to have much fun as I can?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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VladPatton

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Eh. If you have other girls you are looking to go out with, by all means go out with them. This girl is nothing to wait around for. I would go cold out of sheer disinterest. I know the type of girl you're talking about. They don't exactly make your dıck shoot orange sparks of passion. Look for something better that gets your blood pumping.
 

DragonBlood

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Broo said:
When she got home she told me she enjoyed our conversation yesterday night. I haven't talked to her since last night, and I'm still contemplating whether go out with her again or not.
2nd date. But not in any hurry.


You now know how to warm this person up in conversation, try to escalate with kino and a kiss. If she becomes flaky or gives you the cheek tell her to shape up or ship out. You dont have time for games.

It seems your doing ok, it really depends on how responsive she is during the next date, assuming there is one. Maybe focus on someone else for now who isnt so so.
 
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