2nd date ideas

[flowtheory]

True. I am working on myself, no doubt. I guess it's a once bitten twice shy attitude. I can take rejection, it's just the mixed messages I find perplexing.

The mixed messages would be a form of rejection. So it’s rejection you can’t handle because your reaction says more than anything. And within that is where your personal learning and growing needs to take place. Because in your strongest self, that rejection from another person should mean nothing because you would know you’re value and you’d rather see it as her loss and lack of good judgement, than ‘why is she doing this to me’.
It’s something I’m working and learning right now too.
It’s making the switch between victor and victim mentality. It takes time. However, just realize you have a growth mindset and not fixed.

 

[flowtheory]

And because youre getting bent out of shape and racking your mind on her mixed messages, that also shows you’re placing your self worth and validation in her control. So in that case, you’ll always bend to other people/women.
Someone with high self value wouldn’t even bat an eye if that person was sending mixed signals. They would be ready to eject them in to outer space as it wouldn’t align with there ideal connection.

 

[marmel75]

True. I am working on myself, no doubt. I guess it's a once bitten twice shy attitude. I can take rejection, it's just the mixed messages I find perplexing.



The zone was just as I was a painting the mural. I was very active in touching her and advising her. Perhaps, it wasn't a good idea for a date. I'm not perfect.

Women who are highly interested in you DON'T send mixed messages. You only get mixed messages from women when you are lower on their "list".

The advice is always the same. Work on finding women where you are at the top of their list and you will not find this happening anymore.