"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Masculinity

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I'm in the Mood said:
Is the game going to be identical to the first one or are you guys going to make changes? I haven't read the first thread yet, so I'll want to study that if we're copying it.
It will not be identical. However, it will be similar in the overall concept. The challenges are going to be different. I would take a look at the original Gladiators thread, though. It will give you a better sense of what's ahead of you. Props on signing up. Once you pick up some speed, you will realize it is not as hard as you may have thought. After that, you'll view it as a game, which is all it is: a fun game women love to play. You got my info if you get stuck.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Man I'm so in this. Haven't been to SS for so long, then found this thread. Will it be mostly approaching during the day or in night game venues?
 

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okey I'm in...got nervous just entering the competition so probably need it:)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Updated list as of 1/2/12:

AAAgent
Black Jesus
Btownbuck2012
Donjuanit0
TheMusic
Roman81
I'm in the mood
Packers2010
3countriesplan
Badboyjmm
dandelion
TheConductor
Sandman
Martini92
Sofomore
Archway
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Come on guys, deadline is this Sunday!
 
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are you going to update the new rules or provide info on the first week's objective?

Also i'll be out of the country for 10 days starting next monday so hopefully i can pull this off.
 

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Only two days until the beginning of the competition!

I want to give a pat on the back to each of the fourteen participants on the list. It takes some courage to get out there and do what you guys are about to do. The other coaches and I look forward to your success. I know it is hard to get started, so I dug up some stuff and found this very good thread on approaching and social phobias. Credit: Mr. Fingers. It will be much more easier to complete your challenges after completing this reading: Thread Also, take a look at this clip: Video
 

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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List has been updated. The competition begins tommorrow. HOWEVER, guys have until SUNDAY at 11:59 pm Pacific Time to enter. You all will get reminders from either me or Robyn regarding this!!! When the challenge is posted, the official rules will also be posted as well.
 

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Archway said:
count me in bro..
Not to single you out but last year there were lots of people who said count me in as 1 time posters and were never heard from again. Hopefully it won't be the same this time.

We're all here for self improvement so don't be afraid to try, even if you have to try 100 times before you make the first attempt we're here to support each other.

I'll be looking out for you name Archway and looking forward to your second post in this thread.

-AAA
 

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AAAgent said:
Not to single you out but last year there were lots of people who said count me in as 1 time posters and were never heard from again. Hopefully it won't be the same this time.

We're all here for self improvement so don't be afraid to try, even if you have to try 100 times before you make the first attempt we're here to support each other.

I'll be looking out for you name Archway and looking forward to your second post in this thread.

-AAA
Sorry my second post doesnt contain better info, but your point has been noted :)

Thanks
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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AAAgent said:
Not to single you out but last year there were lots of people who said count me in as 1 time posters and were never heard from again. Hopefully it won't be the same this time.

We're all here for self improvement so don't be afraid to try, even if you have to try 100 times before you make the first attempt we're here to support each other.

I'll be looking out for you name Archway and looking forward to your second post in this thread.

-AAA
Sorry my second post doesnt contain better info, but your point has been noted :)

Thanks
 

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Official Challenge: Week # 1

Your challenge:

Approach seven people and simply say "hi/waddup/how are ya?" You are free

to choose the location and to continue the conversation for as little or as long

as you would like. Display comfortable body language, maintain eye contact

and a good tone of voice as you interact with these folks. At least three of

the seven people must be women and one must be a woman at work

(ex: a girl working at the mall). These women get paid to make talk with

clients, which will help you get used to talking to people. Go, go, go!
 
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Im In! I heard most men only do about 4 cold approaches in their entire life. By doing this competition I will be way ahead of the norm, so count me in Gray The Prince
 
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I don't really want to do this, which is why it would probably be good for me. As a warning, what will probably be my most difficult semester of college thus far (and this is my 6th year) is starting Monday, but I will try and stick with this.
 

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Robyn923b said:
Your challenge:

Approach seven people and simply say "hi/waddup/how are ya?" You are free

to choose the location and to continue the conversation for as little or as long

as you would like. Display comfortable body language, maintain eye contact

and a good tone of voice as you interact with these folks. At least three of

the seven people must be women and one must be a woman at work

(ex: a girl working at the mall). These women get paid to make talk with

clients, which will help you get used to talking to people. Go, go, go!

Consider it done.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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