"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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2nd annual approach anxiety competition

Masculinity

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I'm in the Mood said:
Is the game going to be identical to the first one or are you guys going to make changes? I haven't read the first thread yet, so I'll want to study that if we're copying it.
It will not be identical. However, it will be similar in the overall concept. The challenges are going to be different. I would take a look at the original Gladiators thread, though. It will give you a better sense of what's ahead of you. Props on signing up. Once you pick up some speed, you will realize it is not as hard as you may have thought. After that, you'll view it as a game, which is all it is: a fun game women love to play. You got my info if you get stuck.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Man I'm so in this. Haven't been to SS for so long, then found this thread. Will it be mostly approaching during the day or in night game venues?
 

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okey I'm in...got nervous just entering the competition so probably need it:)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Updated list as of 1/2/12:

AAAgent
Black Jesus
Btownbuck2012
Donjuanit0
TheMusic
Roman81
I'm in the mood
Packers2010
3countriesplan
Badboyjmm
dandelion
TheConductor
Sandman
Martini92
Sofomore
Archway
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Come on guys, deadline is this Sunday!
 
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are you going to update the new rules or provide info on the first week's objective?

Also i'll be out of the country for 10 days starting next monday so hopefully i can pull this off.
 

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Only two days until the beginning of the competition!

I want to give a pat on the back to each of the fourteen participants on the list. It takes some courage to get out there and do what you guys are about to do. The other coaches and I look forward to your success. I know it is hard to get started, so I dug up some stuff and found this very good thread on approaching and social phobias. Credit: Mr. Fingers. It will be much more easier to complete your challenges after completing this reading: Thread Also, take a look at this clip: Video
 

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bump.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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List has been updated. The competition begins tommorrow. HOWEVER, guys have until SUNDAY at 11:59 pm Pacific Time to enter. You all will get reminders from either me or Robyn regarding this!!! When the challenge is posted, the official rules will also be posted as well.
 

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Archway said:
count me in bro..
Not to single you out but last year there were lots of people who said count me in as 1 time posters and were never heard from again. Hopefully it won't be the same this time.

We're all here for self improvement so don't be afraid to try, even if you have to try 100 times before you make the first attempt we're here to support each other.

I'll be looking out for you name Archway and looking forward to your second post in this thread.

-AAA
 

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AAAgent said:
Not to single you out but last year there were lots of people who said count me in as 1 time posters and were never heard from again. Hopefully it won't be the same this time.

We're all here for self improvement so don't be afraid to try, even if you have to try 100 times before you make the first attempt we're here to support each other.

I'll be looking out for you name Archway and looking forward to your second post in this thread.

-AAA
Sorry my second post doesnt contain better info, but your point has been noted :)

Thanks
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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AAAgent said:
Not to single you out but last year there were lots of people who said count me in as 1 time posters and were never heard from again. Hopefully it won't be the same this time.

We're all here for self improvement so don't be afraid to try, even if you have to try 100 times before you make the first attempt we're here to support each other.

I'll be looking out for you name Archway and looking forward to your second post in this thread.

-AAA
Sorry my second post doesnt contain better info, but your point has been noted :)

Thanks
 

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Official Challenge: Week # 1

Your challenge:

Approach seven people and simply say "hi/waddup/how are ya?" You are free

to choose the location and to continue the conversation for as little or as long

as you would like. Display comfortable body language, maintain eye contact

and a good tone of voice as you interact with these folks. At least three of

the seven people must be women and one must be a woman at work

(ex: a girl working at the mall). These women get paid to make talk with

clients, which will help you get used to talking to people. Go, go, go!
 
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Im In! I heard most men only do about 4 cold approaches in their entire life. By doing this competition I will be way ahead of the norm, so count me in Gray The Prince
 
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I don't really want to do this, which is why it would probably be good for me. As a warning, what will probably be my most difficult semester of college thus far (and this is my 6th year) is starting Monday, but I will try and stick with this.
 

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Robyn923b said:
Your challenge:

Approach seven people and simply say "hi/waddup/how are ya?" You are free

to choose the location and to continue the conversation for as little or as long

as you would like. Display comfortable body language, maintain eye contact

and a good tone of voice as you interact with these folks. At least three of

the seven people must be women and one must be a woman at work

(ex: a girl working at the mall). These women get paid to make talk with

clients, which will help you get used to talking to people. Go, go, go!

Consider it done.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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