25 things I learned about marriage

[Hooligan Harry]

You need a successful relationship or two before you start handing out advice

 

[The Message Boy]

Why isn't Harry banned? lol

 

[trent81]

Never Ever Marry An American Woman, Never Marry A Westernized Woman. Ever. Period.

Years Will Pass, Winter, Spring, Summer, Fall, One Day, She Will Get Bored. Like They All Do. She Doesn't Need You To Survive In This Society. Find Someone Who Needs You To Live.

 

[jophil28]

You need a successful relationship or two before you start handing out advice

A successful relationship ! That is infinitely more likely to happen to me than to you. Have you ever considered enroling in anger management class to acquire better control of your emotions?

 

[Hooligan Harry]

A successful relationship ! That is infinitely more likely to happen to me than to you. Have you ever considered enroling in anger management class to acquire better control of your emotions?

Yes, but you better hurry. I have a lot more time than you do and wont be making many of the same mistakes you did. You need to get over this bull**** that someone younger cannot provide some perspective because of their age. Its a cop out used to protect your own ego. If you are not still on the path of self discovery why are you still here? Altruistic motivations alone? Maybe we could petition the mods to start a forum for the middle aged only.

 

[slickaz]

1 thing that i look at the muslims with admiration..
the way they treat marriage. they keep their women in line..

gotta be good for you..

lowest divorce rates in the world, women shut the fvk up when around their husband and kids grow up knowing limits..

 

[Vader]

10% rule.....

50% get divorced, 25% unhappy, 15% happy getting some or don't want to be alone.....

We all know there is only about 10% of the women out there that are half way normal

 

[Colossus]

10. Ultimately she will treat YOU like her mother treated her Dad.Take a peek though that window BEFORE you rent that tux.

I agree with Jophil on this, as this has been demonstrated to have real predictive ability. However, I also think societal factors influence women more these days than ever before.

The destructive influence of American culture and the constant reinforcement from their gaggle of hens will often overshadow even the best upbringing. That's why you cant rely on this alone, although it would be foolish to ignore the dynamics of her parents.

As for # 13 and 14, I think Jophil's opinion is more reflective of his own experience and shouldn't be taken as a generalization applicable to all women. There are certain types of women who fit this bill, but there are also many who don't. He was just relaying what he lived through.

I think that marrying only "for love" is foolish and short-sighted. Growing up in the Christian midwest this crap was shoved down my throat at every turn, but when I used a few brain cells and looked at it critically I found it was misleading rubbish. Marriage should absolutely be a rational decision. I'm not saying feelings shouldn't factor in at all---of course they should---but they should not be what governs your choice of who you marry. You might really love her now, but in 10 years 2 degrees of difference in the course of two ships can leave them leagues away from each other.

 

[Trader]

I think that marrying only "for love" is foolish and short-sighted. Growing up in the Christian midwest this crap was shoved down my throat at every turn, but when I used a few brain cells and looked at it critically I found it was misleading rubbish. Marriage should absolutely be a rational decision. I'm not saying feelings shouldn't factor in at all---of course they should---but they should not be what governs your choice of who you marry. You might really love her now, but in 10 years 2 degrees of difference in the course of two ships can leave them leagues away from each other.

Let me clarify

The Christian mindset emphasizes marrying for love with commitment and BOTH sides must love and commit. That was how marriage was supposed to be in the eyes of God - pure selflessness on BOTH sides. If that occurs, marriage will always work in the long run.

Obviously, it's tough to find 2 people who are like that these days.

These days both guys and girls lack the heart to love their spouse when things go wrong, and are tempted to break off commitments at the sign of any hardships. Obviously that is the recipe for disaster.

 

[brokenupinside]

You need a successful relationship or two before you start handing out advice

I think jophil28 was not handing out "advice" nor giving out the recepie for a successfull relationship or marriage,quite the contrary he was pointing out possible outcomes.
He is 50 something ,you are 30 something,if you are not going to make the same mistakes is because somebody that went through it showed you the way,you are standing on the shoulders of the ones before you so to speak.
Experience counts guys.

 

[muscleman]

Someone humor me and tell me what a man gains in today's terms by marrying which he can't gain without?

Besides this of course:

-she gets your last name
-she gets half your stuff or more (prenups wont save you, what a joke)
-you spend a ridiculous amount on a party that means nothing

It's not like you can't have a house or raise kids or any of that outside of marriage ... it's mind boggling. I'm not getting married til the laws change, if ever.

 

[Die Hard]

Any of you guys watch Dexter? This season is very illustrative... fukk marriage and fukk women (figuratively and literally )

 

[trent81]

Someone humor me and tell me what a man gains in today's terms by marrying which he can't gain without?

Besides this of course:

-she gets your last name
-she gets half your stuff or more (prenups wont save you, what a joke)
-you spend a ridiculous amount on a party that means nothing

It's not like you can't have a house or raise kids or any of that outside of marriage ... it's mind boggling. I'm not getting married til the laws change, if ever.

I have already gone over this. You gain a longer life. Married elder men live much, much longer than single ones. These are proven studies. Solitude in later life is harmful to a man. A companion who takes care of you is vital in your later years. She bears children that are going to be healthier in a two parent home. Infidelity and STD's are reduced if you have a woman who takes care of your needs. You also eat well if she can cook. You stay away from trouble. There are scientific studies to the benefits of marriage. You just got to find the right girl.

 

[Trader]

Someone humor me and tell me what a man gains in today's terms by marrying which he can't gain without?

Besides this of course:

-she gets your last name
-she gets half your stuff or more (prenups wont save you, what a joke)
-you spend a ridiculous amount on a party that means nothing

It's not like you can't have a house or raise kids or any of that outside of marriage ... it's mind boggling. I'm not getting married til the laws change, if ever.

It is much better for children to be raised under one household with a father and a mother.

If you cry BS - then ask yourself: 'Would you consider it a plus for your potential wife to be raised with the father and mother divorced or seperated?'

The family is a unit - one of the basic subunits of society.

 

[Nutz]

Roissy hit a grand slam with this one:

http://roissy.wordpress.com/2009/11/19/meet-the-real-biggest-losers

Every last one of you better require a prenup and paternity test when the time comes.

http://roissy.wordpress.com/2008/03/11/mandatory-paternity-testing-has-arrived/

http://roissy.wordpress.com/2009/05/12/washington-post-fembot-tells-cuckold-suck-it-up/

http://www.washingtoncitypaper.com/display.php?id=8308
Average rate of getting duped into fathering someone else's spawn is about 4% known, but adjusted for the estimated times they go unrecognized somewhere in the 7-10% range. However, in the cases where the father suspected the woman may have cheated at some point during the relationship the odds shoot up to 33% one of your kids is by someone else. If you've got 3 kids, and your suspect your wife may have cheated at some point, then on average one of your 3 kids isn't actually yours. Think about that.


There's also some solid insights here:

http://www.westwoodone.com/pg/jsp/leykis/streamarchive.jsp?pid=8118

http://www.podcastalley.com/podcast_details.php?pod_id=27718


And I have to post this one if only for the following line:
http://fbardamu.wordpress.com/2009/08/18/dont-trust-any-woman-over-30/

As the number of he-rockets ravaging her she-pocket increases, her ability to bond with a man is accordingly decreased.

Cracks me up every time I read it.