"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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24 yrs down the drain

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imaluvnit said:
I'm now just trying to learn how to do things for ME without automatically considering someone else, it's a hard habit to break. I will keep reading and keep learning, that is what gives me hope about my future. The more I learn the more confidence and momentum I am gaining. Thank's once again.
Think about some fun things you've wanted to do for years but couldn't because you were married. For me, I went back and worked on my skating, ran some 5K and 10K races, took up skiing, photography, mountain bikes. I made a pact with myself not to watch TV for a year; it got me off my ass and got me out there doing productive activities.

I would strongly advise hitting the clubs every weekend or spending hours on dating sites. That is not where the quality women, (or men, for that matter) reside.

A great place to do this is meetup - look it up on the web, or hobby related sites.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Keep up the good work, I am glad you reminded me of the law of reciprocation, I am aware of it, but some how over the years it had gotten lost amongst other laws that needed to be obeyed in order not to mess up my relationship. It sure is hard to take ownership of my screw ups, but i guess in order not to make the same mistakes over again, I think it is critcal to take some constructive critisism and use it to my advantage and not go around thinking that I have all the answers. Please keep the info coming.......
 
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