20Humble5050's Thousand Approach Ascension Crusade (Field Reports)

[tksniper]

I appreciate your effort buddy. I was an aspiring pickup artist back in the days.

what I learned during my journey was none of your approaches matter. In fact most attractive women think you are a nuisance if you are low value and you try to approach them .

You should reframe your entire journal into “approach greatness”.

Any loser can approach women. But it takes a special person to approach greatness.

 

[20Humble5050]

I appreciate your effort buddy. I was an aspiring pickup artist back in the days.

what I learned during my journey was none of your approaches matter. In fact most attractive women think you are a nuisance if you are low value and you try to approach them .

You should reframe your entire journal into “approach greatness”.

Any loser can approach women. But it takes a special person to approach greatness.

What sort of Blackpilled trite is this? And what bloody choice do I have? How do you suggest I meet women instead? If I was attractive enough for dating apps I wouldn’t be here!

 

[20Humble5050]

Day 1: Well, I failed. I failed to pack my things beforehand to make it easier for me to get the motivation to go where I was planning to, and I overslept when I took a nap after work. I work early shifts and need to work on getting to bed earlier to prevent needing to do that. I can still make the rest of the day productive by cleaning and planning.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Day 1: Well, I failed. I failed to pack my things beforehand to make it easier for me to get the motivation to go where I was planning to, and I overslept when I took a nap after work. I work early shifts and need to work on getting to bed earlier to prevent needing to do that. I can still make the rest of the day productive by cleaning and planning.

How old are you? Do you have a social clique?

Woe to the young man with no social clique and who doesn’t have the woman question nailed down EARLY!

 

[20Humble5050]

How old are you? Do you have a social clique?

Woe to the young man with no social clique and who doesn’t have the woman question nailed down EARLY!

24. Yes, I have a few friends now. What is the "woman question"?

 

[20Humble5050]

I appreciate your effort buddy. I was an aspiring pickup artist back in the days.

what I learned during my journey was none of your approaches matter. In fact most attractive women think you are a nuisance if you are low value and you try to approach them .

You should reframe your entire journal into “approach greatness”.

Any loser can approach women. But it takes a special person to approach greatness.

Just for reference, for anybody who might stumble across this thread, the plan is off, and has been for a while. I could go on for ages, but in summary, I was an idealist who just couldn't grasp that things wouldn't magically improve in proportion to brute-force efforts at approaching, until the last time I tried to do it when the bouncer kicked me out of a bar for creeping out the foids. That broke something in me, and forced me to grow up all at once. I am utterly miserable, and need to be happy with my life without a woman in it before I can succeed in getting one, and now I am mature enough to know that the deck is stacked so badly against me that working on both at the same time instead of the former before the latter is outright counterproductive and will only make me more enemies. Whereas once I was only a pathological truth-teller with other people, I have now stopped lying to myself as well, and have stopped playing the "social game" altogether and pretending to be someone I'm not because it has not gotten me enough material gains to justify the effort, either in terms of relationship success or otherwise. I may restart at some point, but only once I'm no longer morbidly obese and no longer living in some godforsaken ****hole that limits my ability to approach no matter how much effort I am willing to make.

 

[Gamisch]

Just for reference, for anybody who might stumble across this thread, the plan is off, and has been for a while. I could go on for ages, but in summary, I was an idealist who just couldn't grasp that things wouldn't magically improve in proportion to brute-force efforts at approaching, until the last time I tried to do it when the bouncer kicked me out of a bar for creeping out the foids. That broke something in me, and forced me to grow up all at once. I am utterly miserable, and need to be happy with my life without a woman in it before I can succeed in getting one, and now I am mature enough to know that the deck is stacked so badly against me that working on both at the same time instead of the former before the latter is outright counterproductive and will only make me more enemies. Whereas once I was only a pathological truth-teller with other people, I have now stopped lying to myself as well, and have stopped playing the "social game" altogether and pretending to be someone I'm not because it has not gotten me enough material gains to justify the effort, either in terms of relationship success or otherwise. I may restart at some point, but only once I'm no longer morbidly obese and no longer living in some godforsaken ****hole that limits my ability to approach no matter how much effort I am willing to make.

Well
.at least you tried.

I've been saying for ages that spam approach is a waste of time.

Yes it does has it merits, but long term imo a man must focus on other stuff in life .

The best thing is that now IF you someday must approach because you get clear invitations, you know what to do.

Now go hit that fecking gym 7 days a week, no excuses. Spam approach the weights now for at least two years in combination with some hardcore cardio!!!!

Ai

 

[Lotus Effect]

I think that just the fact that OP is here, opening his failures to evryone, is already a major step towards improving.

There are a hundred million things that can be done, of course, but humbleness in accepting your fails is the first thing to be done.

 

[20Humble5050]

I think that just the fact that OP is here, opening his failures to evryone, is already a major step towards improving.

There are a hundred million things that can be done, of course, but humbleness in accepting your fails is the first thing to be done.

The nuclear confidence killer for me, and something I've experienced multiple times now, is how way too many girls don't even give you signs of disinterest to pick up on or make an excuse to move away, let alone honestly say that they don't want to talk/aren't into you. Instead they put on a facade of either being perfectly pleasant if you're talking to them, or continuing to copy your dance moves and not be standoffish if you're on the dance floor, all while signalling their friend or the bouncer to "solve the problem". And I'd bet my bottom dollar that these girls look at me in particular and decide before I've even opened my mouth that I must be a persistent creep who will not take no for an answer; do you think they'd do that if a Chad approached them but they were taken or didn't consider him her type?

There are two main suspects for who got me kicked out of the bar the last time I tried to run game. Once, I tried being friendly to this ugly girl who I had no interest in asking out (honestly!) and the very first thing she said when I just asked for her name was "I have a boyfriend". I replied with a flippant remark because I was not amused at her presumptuous rudeness. The second girl (hot, and a target) was one that seemed genuinely eager to speak to me, leading the questions and asking me things like where I lived on campus, but her friend was having none of it. After a while I came back to her with the intent of getting her number or social media before I left but her friend moved her away even quicker, so I couldn't; at the time I thought her friend might have actually been going against her wishes but in all likelihood she was just particularly good at the aforementioned "deflect and eject" rejection tactic. I have to get to bed now and have more observations that I'd like to share later about my experience trying to ascend on "I Am Death Incarnate" difficulty, but for now I acknowledge that I was not in the headspace of outcome independence, and wasn't having enough fun to justify being there without the draw of the foids, which is no good; ideally I should have not been so bitter as to be brusque with any rude ones no matter how rude they were.

 

[Lotus Effect]

Pro tip:

make friends with the staff

Everywhere. Bars. Clubs. Restaurants. Cafes. Gym. Nightclubs. Bakery. Supermarket. You name it

You will get out of inertia
You will make genuine outcome independent approaches
You will make genuine interactions
You will build social awareness
You will build social proof
You will have people to talk to

and whenever you’re in the venue you will get external validation which puts you above the crowd

do it by just being a regular, over and over

I can tell that after moving to a different continent, leaving all my click behind, a solid 90% of my current social circle is staff I befriended