She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Stop looking for women your own age, the overwhelming majority of them go to **** in their 30s. Go for the women 18-25 (25 being a HARD cutoff) and you'll save yourself a lot of headache, frustration, and disappointment.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
If you can make it happen, taking 1-2 years off and letting the pandemic pass is a defensible move. However, going without a partnered physical release for that time is not feasible for a lot of men. Porn and mbate indulgence to make up for being unpartnered is worse. MGTOW monk mode is bad too. It's a lousy set of options out there for the unpartnered man. Sitting it all out or keeping the in-person approach game going (if lacking a social circle or social circle is exhausted) are probably the best two options.
Accurate for the area.
The fact that you were able to attract a 19 year old at 27 and retain her for some time is an accomplishment. The maturity gap might be overrated. None of us on the internet can truly assess how bad it was or if you overreacted to it because we weren't there.
I did touch on that. Social circles have been weakening for the last 3 decades prior to the pandemic. Those who had one going into the pandemic have a huge advantage now. Even in non-pandemic times, a viable social circle for feeding someone dates is an advantage over cold approaching.
Swipe apps make it more difficult to get more than a 3-5 year age gap. That can be avoided with in-person approaching. It can be done now, though it is probably going to be done more outdoors on hiking and walking paths. Places with warmer winters have an advantage here for the next 4-6 months.
I have issues trying to relate to younger women...they are immature and don't have their lives together. Most also want kids. No thanks.
In the Incelosphere, this called "Juggernauting". Here's a good explanation of it:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.