Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yo wanted to bump this thread to update resolutions and see how everyone else is doing on theirs lets achieve all of these.gonnamakeit said:2008 is definetly my best year ever also. I got a lot stronger gained some muscle. In everyway athleticly got way better than ever. I got myself to finally be able to train 2 hrs a day 6 days a week in addition to lifting. I went from a fairly unknown loser to a well known cool guy. I got way more confident. I did my first ever attempt at getting a girls number through a cold approac. I completed first 3 weeks of djbc. I approached 20 girls in one day twice. I went out with the intention of doing 10 approaches and getting rejected on them (by approaching women much older than me and in inconvient situations) and did it. Completed first two steps of COC. Completed Unstoppable confidence. Fixed all my injuries and imbalances through difficult rehab exercises every day. Got much better at learning to relax in competition. Learned a lot. Also got my diet perfect with 100% complience. Got leaner. And all of that stuff was in the last 8 most of it the last 6 months of the year. After I found this site. Looking back now I am real pround of myself I changed more than I ever have in that short of a time.
This year I will complete the DJBC get a real consistent dating life (like a few dates a week with different girls) get laid. Make sure I am completly mentally prepared for all competitions so I can perform at my best. Win some big tournaments. Get not just a decent body but a great one get down to upper single digit bf and add 20-30 pounds of muscle. DJBC is main thing I think once that is done I will be where I want to be and getting better will just be icing on the cake. But I am sure I will find more stuff to do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.