"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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collalife said:
4th set.(asian) hb 5(lol low huh)
me: are you by chance a dancer?
her: yeah
me: well i noticed the dance banner are you in a group/
her: yeah im in (something) and we partcipate in competitions and cheography dance.
me: o thats cool did you get paid?
her: (chuckles) no we do it for free.
me: thats interesting cause im interesting in getting a dance group(i pop lock my arm (dhv) )
her: nice. so if dont wanna compete we have a nother group that just does hip hop, and dance.
me: no i wanna compete.
her: so your a incoming freshman?
me: yeah(at another school lol)
her:well hi my name is (ill use britney)
me: hi my name is collalife(which i dont use lol)
me: welll see you around.
her:bye
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excellent job on this one,
but like Jayer said, attempt a close.
the dance one sounded like it was going good, i think you could have scored a number there
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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LOng time no see.

I been gone a long time. Right now Im actually starting the bootcamp for don juan to take this a little serious.

Im moving too, to a lame part of the country. So Ima be a little more focused. I will be in the field like a soccer player, kickin game. I will chronicle all the decent number closes and interesting convos. Check my other thread called don juan boot camp for my progress on that endeavor.

Stay tuned for the real deal.
 
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Good that you're getting out there, but you're not really gonna learn much if you just eject on your own immediately.

Either A) try to keep the conversation going somehow, or B) go direct and ask for a number right away. So you'd either try to transition into anything and keep talking into she tells you she has to leave, or be straight up and say something like "hey, this is really random but I think you're really cute. Are you single?".

Again, awesome that you're approaching, but you gotta push things to improve.
 
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Im coming back(RETURN OF A DON TO BE)

Yeah I do... I understand. I have fell off as of recently. I am doing the don juan boot camp. Check my threads for it. I need to push cuz a boring life is well... boring.
 
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