blue11199
Don Juan
should i be focusing on school and activities and getting a good job? or should i up my game and try to get some poon? i turned 20 recently. should i try to do both? school + girls?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
20 year old virgin in college. should i be focusing on girls?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Mantis Toboggan
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Why does focusing on school mean that you can't have women?
Are you one of those kids that studies for 12 hours a day? Study all you want and go out partying 2 nights per week.
What's the point of all this study, and worrying about your future if you never enjoy a social life. You'll have your 4.0 GPA, and a great job, and you'll have no fond memories of your youth.
I was a terrible student, a great partyer (partier?), and I still graduated and got the job I've wanted since I was 12 years old. It's not like having a social life dooms you to being poor and getting awful grades.
Are you one of those kids that studies for 12 hours a day? Study all you want and go out partying 2 nights per week.
What's the point of all this study, and worrying about your future if you never enjoy a social life. You'll have your 4.0 GPA, and a great job, and you'll have no fond memories of your youth.
I was a terrible student, a great partyer (partier?), and I still graduated and got the job I've wanted since I was 12 years old. It's not like having a social life dooms you to being poor and getting awful grades.
mustfirstregister
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must get some poon if you can.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
alwayslead8821
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If anything focus on yourself and school. When I say this I mean building your inner confidence by going to the gym, and using positive thinking. If you do this and truely adopt the theory "I am a great catch" girls will flock to you. NEVER focus on getting girls!Girls are just a bonus to you naturally realizing your full potential.
Bobby Rio
Don Juan
College is the time to have funnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn. Don't waste it. I would give my left nut to back in college playing around with those horny little bunnies...
Do it.
Do it.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
the problem with that bull**** line of thinking is that no matter how big you get (i'm at 190 pounds, almost all muscle) and no matter how positive you are (i'm a really happy guy) that **** doesn't happen for some people, period.1337 said:
YogurtSlinger
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It's because you are ugly. So you are a big, happy ugly guy. I think women might refer to that as a 'butterface'.HolyG said:
True, women won't approach you just because you are a positive guy with a great body. You still need to approach. Being positive/working out will only help you lower your rejection percentage and get girls to give you more signals which you still need to act on and make the first move on.HolyG said:
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
I never got this...
So what your saying is if you did this whole WOMEN stuff became satisfied, you'd all of a sudden just STOP and focus on something else?
Basically what I'm saying is this goes hand in hand...
Do your school work BUT make sure your working on your social skills and overall lifestyle. This is just a TOOL to making your life more interesting and more giving.
1. Become social...Meet atleast 1-5 people a day during school
2. Take a few #s for the sake of building a social network (Pick 1 interest)
3. 1x a week or month host something based on what YOUR interested in
4. Start meeting more women who you might potentially be interested in and immerse her into your life either via DAY2 or social tree event
Basically this takes nothing but a walk from dorm to class (Meet girl) and hosting something that YOUR interested in and already was going to do. Any new women you meet are either becoming part of your social tree or is a chick who likes you and realizes that she's not the center of your life.
Time management is great because you can just invite all the women your interested in to that monthly or weekly thing that you've created. You'll become much more social and eventually move towards being more sexual.
Social Being + Sexual Being = Success
If your SOCIAL you can create opportunities for people and if your SEXUAL it's assumed that under the right circumstances (Isolation) and situation (Both interested in each other) then there is a HIGH probability of something happening because heck your SOCIAL (Create Opportunities) so you can make that probability come true. (Escalate)
So what your saying is if you did this whole WOMEN stuff became satisfied, you'd all of a sudden just STOP and focus on something else?
Basically what I'm saying is this goes hand in hand...
Do your school work BUT make sure your working on your social skills and overall lifestyle. This is just a TOOL to making your life more interesting and more giving.
1. Become social...Meet atleast 1-5 people a day during school
2. Take a few #s for the sake of building a social network (Pick 1 interest)
3. 1x a week or month host something based on what YOUR interested in
4. Start meeting more women who you might potentially be interested in and immerse her into your life either via DAY2 or social tree event
Basically this takes nothing but a walk from dorm to class (Meet girl) and hosting something that YOUR interested in and already was going to do. Any new women you meet are either becoming part of your social tree or is a chick who likes you and realizes that she's not the center of your life.
Time management is great because you can just invite all the women your interested in to that monthly or weekly thing that you've created. You'll become much more social and eventually move towards being more sexual.
Social Being + Sexual Being = Success
If your SOCIAL you can create opportunities for people and if your SEXUAL it's assumed that under the right circumstances (Isolation) and situation (Both interested in each other) then there is a HIGH probability of something happening because heck your SOCIAL (Create Opportunities) so you can make that probability come true. (Escalate)
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.