blue11199
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should i be focusing on school and activities and getting a good job? or should i up my game and try to get some poon? i turned 20 recently. should i try to do both? school + girls?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
20 year old virgin in college. should i be focusing on girls?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Mantis Toboggan
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Why does focusing on school mean that you can't have women?
Are you one of those kids that studies for 12 hours a day? Study all you want and go out partying 2 nights per week.
What's the point of all this study, and worrying about your future if you never enjoy a social life. You'll have your 4.0 GPA, and a great job, and you'll have no fond memories of your youth.
I was a terrible student, a great partyer (partier?), and I still graduated and got the job I've wanted since I was 12 years old. It's not like having a social life dooms you to being poor and getting awful grades.
Are you one of those kids that studies for 12 hours a day? Study all you want and go out partying 2 nights per week.
What's the point of all this study, and worrying about your future if you never enjoy a social life. You'll have your 4.0 GPA, and a great job, and you'll have no fond memories of your youth.
I was a terrible student, a great partyer (partier?), and I still graduated and got the job I've wanted since I was 12 years old. It's not like having a social life dooms you to being poor and getting awful grades.
mustfirstregister
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must get some poon if you can.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
alwayslead8821
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If anything focus on yourself and school. When I say this I mean building your inner confidence by going to the gym, and using positive thinking. If you do this and truely adopt the theory "I am a great catch" girls will flock to you. NEVER focus on getting girls!Girls are just a bonus to you naturally realizing your full potential.
Bobby Rio
Don Juan
College is the time to have funnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn. Don't waste it. I would give my left nut to back in college playing around with those horny little bunnies...
Do it.
Do it.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
the problem with that bull**** line of thinking is that no matter how big you get (i'm at 190 pounds, almost all muscle) and no matter how positive you are (i'm a really happy guy) that **** doesn't happen for some people, period.1337 said:
YogurtSlinger
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It's because you are ugly. So you are a big, happy ugly guy. I think women might refer to that as a 'butterface'.HolyG said:
True, women won't approach you just because you are a positive guy with a great body. You still need to approach. Being positive/working out will only help you lower your rejection percentage and get girls to give you more signals which you still need to act on and make the first move on.HolyG said:
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
I never got this...
So what your saying is if you did this whole WOMEN stuff became satisfied, you'd all of a sudden just STOP and focus on something else?
Basically what I'm saying is this goes hand in hand...
Do your school work BUT make sure your working on your social skills and overall lifestyle. This is just a TOOL to making your life more interesting and more giving.
1. Become social...Meet atleast 1-5 people a day during school
2. Take a few #s for the sake of building a social network (Pick 1 interest)
3. 1x a week or month host something based on what YOUR interested in
4. Start meeting more women who you might potentially be interested in and immerse her into your life either via DAY2 or social tree event
Basically this takes nothing but a walk from dorm to class (Meet girl) and hosting something that YOUR interested in and already was going to do. Any new women you meet are either becoming part of your social tree or is a chick who likes you and realizes that she's not the center of your life.
Time management is great because you can just invite all the women your interested in to that monthly or weekly thing that you've created. You'll become much more social and eventually move towards being more sexual.
Social Being + Sexual Being = Success
If your SOCIAL you can create opportunities for people and if your SEXUAL it's assumed that under the right circumstances (Isolation) and situation (Both interested in each other) then there is a HIGH probability of something happening because heck your SOCIAL (Create Opportunities) so you can make that probability come true. (Escalate)
So what your saying is if you did this whole WOMEN stuff became satisfied, you'd all of a sudden just STOP and focus on something else?
Basically what I'm saying is this goes hand in hand...
Do your school work BUT make sure your working on your social skills and overall lifestyle. This is just a TOOL to making your life more interesting and more giving.
1. Become social...Meet atleast 1-5 people a day during school
2. Take a few #s for the sake of building a social network (Pick 1 interest)
3. 1x a week or month host something based on what YOUR interested in
4. Start meeting more women who you might potentially be interested in and immerse her into your life either via DAY2 or social tree event
Basically this takes nothing but a walk from dorm to class (Meet girl) and hosting something that YOUR interested in and already was going to do. Any new women you meet are either becoming part of your social tree or is a chick who likes you and realizes that she's not the center of your life.
Time management is great because you can just invite all the women your interested in to that monthly or weekly thing that you've created. You'll become much more social and eventually move towards being more sexual.
Social Being + Sexual Being = Success
If your SOCIAL you can create opportunities for people and if your SEXUAL it's assumed that under the right circumstances (Isolation) and situation (Both interested in each other) then there is a HIGH probability of something happening because heck your SOCIAL (Create Opportunities) so you can make that probability come true. (Escalate)
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.