"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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20 year old chick

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what up....


I met this 20 year old chick, she's pretty cool. I'm 28. We chat online often. Everytime we make plans, it seems, she bails. the last time, it was even her idea to meet up the night before. So she IMs me asking me to do something the following night. I tell her that's fine and we decide on atime for her to call. The next night she calls and says she needs to get a shower and look presentable. I say ok, call me when your ready to meet up. She calls back and cancels, says she is dead tired, asks if we can do it sometime later this week. she later came online and IMed me.....said she cant sleep...brief pause...then she goes....Entertain me.


I thought to myself, self....this is either a) an attention *****
b) a girl with a boyfriend
c) a chick with emotional
problems
d) all of the above


This has happened like 3 times. We have only ever met once at dinner. I met her online.



my solution........next



your thoughts, concerns ideas......


thanx,


phil
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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.....or e) she's not interested and is waiting for you to take the hint.
 

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Originally posted by phillyb


she later came online and IMed me.....said she cant sleep...brief pause...then she goes....Entertain me.

c) a chick with emotional
problems
What do you want from 20 y.o. chick? This is the way most women behave at 20... she just wants to play, party and have a cooool bf.
NEXT.
 

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The entertain me part tells me that she's still very immature.

It's fun to play around with these kids, but not an ideal for a relationship.

I'll say :down:
 

AIR-PILOT

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Hold it Hold it...
She is immature I agree...
She likes you because you are older etc etc.
This to me equals SEX.
Bang her and leave her.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Yeah, she's a Frosted Flake alright.

I'd definitely drop her. If you wanted to, you could probably bust on her for constantly flaking and re-scheduling, but it doesn't even sound like she's worth it.

20-year-olds usually aren't.

Oh--and I'd definitely give her sh*t about that "entertain me" b.s. lol
 

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I think you should bail. I was 20 just a few years ago and played those same games. Notice I said games, cause that is what it is. I didn't do it for any perticular reason. Mostly to see how long I could string him along if I wasn't that interested. Women are the same as men in some, but very few ways. We do't know how to tell someone we are not interested, so we play these little games to get them to back out. And then, when you do back off, she will come around and want to know what the deal is...
 

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awesome

thanks for the responses......



Honestly, I dont want a relationship with this chick. I just want to go have a good time and possibly get some scroggin' outta the deal. However, these busted dates add up, and it gets old.


I guess we'll see..


laterZ

phil
 

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Originally posted by AIR-PILOT
She is immature I agree...
She likes you because you are older etc etc.
This to me equals SEX.
Bang her and leave her.
Hm, dont you have some allergy for immature FLAKY girls?

Besides he may like sex with her.. and hot himself into trouble of being with the flaky chick...just NEXT her.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I admire her for her ****y behavior. I love it. Here's what we should do:

1) IM a girl, asking her if she'd like to to do something the following night.

2) The next night call and say you just need to get a shower and shave.

3) Call back and cancel, saying you are dead tired, and ask for a rain-check.

4) Later that night, IM again and ask for a booty call.
 

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Originally posted by al77
Hm, dont you have some allergy for immature FLAKY girls?

Besides he may like sex with her.. and hot himself into trouble of being with the flaky chick...just NEXT her.
Nope, I went out with the chick...
The chick had a bf for 2 years and she broke up a month ago. I didn't know that ..thats why she is holding back.
 
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