"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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2 in a row. what are the chances of that?

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I managed to pick up a HB7 on the beach a few weeks ago. number and kiss closed. shes french, irish and native. we've hooked a few times and shes coming by this friday for dinner.

picked another girl a few days later. HB7.5. really cool chick. into comics, music that i like, has a place of her own and a car(bonus)

so over the last few days i have been talking to both of them and the subject of relationships came up.

the first HB 7 had said to me "i just got out of a 7 year relationship and im trying new things out, trying to find myself again"

HB7.5 almost says the exact same thing as the first HB7.

Their wounds are still fresh and can tell by the way they talk about their relationships.

Now this isnt going to stop from sleeping with them but man I dont know whether this is coincidence or God is having a laugh at me.

I am looking for a long term relationship(not desperate for one) but man whats going on here?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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PokerStar said:
I managed to pick up a HB7 on the beach a few weeks ago. number and kiss closed. shes french, irish and native. we've hooked a few times and shes coming by this friday for dinner.

picked another girl a few days later. HB7.5. really cool chick. into comics, music that i like, has a place of her own and a car(bonus)

so over the last few days i have been talking to both of them and the subject of relationships came up.

the first HB 7 had said to me "i just got out of a 7 year relationship and im trying new things out, trying to find myself again"

HB7.5 almost says the exact same thing as the first HB7.

Their wounds are still fresh and can tell by the way they talk about their relationships.

Now this isnt going to stop from sleeping with them but man I dont know whether this is coincidence or God is having a laugh at me.

I am looking for a long term relationship(not desperate for one) but man whats going on here?

Your in whats called "the Zone" where everything seems to be coming together. Maybe you tweaked or calibrated your DJ skills so that your doing something right with these women

Enjoy while it lasts.
 

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I would say -- from very direct recent experience -- to avoid going too deep with either of these women. Sexual casualness, as it lasts, is one thing, but starting a committed relationship with either of these women will become filled with the residues of their recently ended relationship.
 

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Buddha_Mind said:
I would say -- from very direct recent experience -- to avoid going too deep with either of these women. Sexual casualness, as it lasts, is one thing, but starting a committed relationship with either of these women will become filled with the residues of their recently ended relationship.
yeah i hear you.
i have come to realize that these 2 would be good for casual sex and that's it.
I will continue on my journey and enjoy the finer things in life.
 

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Dear Poker Stud,
nothing succeds like success.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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