"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Noobie

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Hey, I've been away for so long and I lost all my skills....

That's why I need some assisstance...

So basically I met this new girl in university and she's isn't hot or anything so I just flirted occasionally and that's it.

Then I got to know her personality and liked it a lot... so I withdrew from always going to her room and stuff and then she started coming to my dorm more often and starting up convos more often.

It was cool, we kept each other company and I still don't know if she would be girlfriend material but it's was pretty much just casual flirting and having a good time together as friends(but potential gf).

Then this new guy out of nowhere who's richer than me, taller than me, and pretty much as good looking as me (not to be ****y) starts flirting with her all the time and spends a lot of time with her.

(I got my own life too... workout everyday, I won the frosh talent show competition, so I'm not a nobody either)

So basically now, she doesn't spend time with me... although she still initiates convos with me... mostly because the other guy always hangs out with her, so she doesn't have time to chill with me.

So now I don't know whether I should act cold to her(A) or just continue to flirt as usual.

(A) If I act cold, she could see me as being insecure about her meeting new people

(B) If I continue to be flirtatious, and she likes the dude, she'd easily play me as a fool. Also, if I take this route, it may seem like I'm her best nice guy friend and shiet...

What do i do?
(Btw... I still dno if I like her, cuz her personality is awesome, but her face is average (6/10)... I just feel really bad when someone steals from me! :box: )
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Noobie

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Btw... I lost all of my conversational skills... does anyone know any good links to being ****y and funny? (I just read a couple on telling stories and stuff)
 

daygameguy

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now don't go and start being ****y funny all of a sudden, she'll think you are a retard. Just make more female friends, and flirt more, and LET HER SEE you with other girls. Then take her somehow on a 1 on 1 date, and totally show her a fun time, be more interesting and fun than the other guy without coming off as try hard. Gauge her IL after that, and be prepared to next her.

How do you or did you use to flirt with her? I get a feeling you are in the LJBF zone.
 
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