2 great dates then a flake

[bat soup]

Hey so I am a long time reader of these forums and hoping to get some solid advice.

Everything I post will be the truth as best as I can tell it so you can give me honest feed back. Thanks.

Messaged a girl I know on Instagram.. set up a date. Hung out and made out at the end as I dropped her home (back in my home town so no free house)

i waited a few days and then messaged her to set up a second date. She agreed. This time I had my house free. I had a games night set up with a mini bar and the fire going. Music on and she brought the snacks. She kept saying how cute it was and that she was impressed. We drank and talked for hours. She then asked to stay the night, so she cancelled her ride home..but her mom was her ride so her mother said she was coming to get her now. Bummer.. she is 26 and back home because of covid. A girl was killed near us recently so her mom was freaking out and came and got her even though she told her she was safe.

Anyway, while she waited for her ride we made out again and she was on to of me dry humping me. Reaching for my **** and ****..

She left and text me saying she had a really good time. I responded saying I did too and to text me if she wanted to do it again sometime.

Which she did. 3 days later she asked to hang out again. I invited her to my city 1hr away and she gladly accepted. We set the date up on the Wednesday for Saturday.
I told her I'd send her my address and I'll talk to her then. She said "sounds great!"

On Friday night after a busy week I realised I hadn't sent her the address. She has been to my area before so I sent a pin on Google maps of my address.

1hr later she responds "Hey sorry I though I text earlier, I can't make it up tomorrow "

I replied "hey, no worries"

That was 12 ish days ago and I haven't heard a peep since.

I am gonna be back in my home town this weekend coming. Should I try to hit her up or do I leave it until she eventually reaches out.

She asked for the 3rd date but also cancelled..where does this leave thing in terms of who should reach out ?

She's banging another guy

 

[manfrombelow]

Welcome onboard, OP.

Make this a lesson learned for you that, everytime you actually have a chance to fvck a chick, you MUST do it no matter what. Because no matter how good the vibe was, or how well clicked your chemistry was, it's very likely you won't have a second chance to fvck her if you don't do it while you have the chance.

In your case, you should have banged this chick right then right there. The fact you didn't do it made her lose interest. Don't ask why. There's no logical answer when it comes to women and their flaky emotions.

And you should have given her your address the moment you guys planned for the 3rd date.

So, she lost interest in you. At this point, the ball is in her court. You should let her decide whether she wants to contact you on her own will or not. Don't text her. Don't call her. Don't anything until at least 2-3 weeks later, when you can give her ONE LAST CALL to ask her out or invite her to your place - and if she still refuses or cancel at last minutes, she's out FOREVER.