"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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2 failed attempts for a kiss

Chip

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I got back today from holidays.
I called this girl that I am seeing.
The conversation ended up with me going over to her place.
Going over to have dinner with her family that is.
Everything seem to have gone well.
Her 4 year old brother seems to love me.
Her mother doesn't mind me being in her daugther's bedroom alone.
But, before I left I tried to kiss her on the lips (in her bedroom) while I'm holding her.
She turned her head and I kissed her cheek.
8^(
So, I said good-bye to her family, they offered to drive me home since I live so far.
I declined.
So, the then she offers to walk me to the nearest bus-stop.
We're outside, away from her parents prying eyes.
I told her to go home, since it was too cold (-25) and dark for her to walk alone when I leave (back to her house).
So, again, I hold her and try for a kiss on her lips.
She turns her head and gives me a hug, and I walk her back home holding her hands.
I'm seeing her at my place tomorrow.
Since I tried to kiss her 2x, and failed.
I think I should withdraw my advances for a bit, or until she decides to advance to me.
What do you guys think?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ManOMan

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I saw this trick on BLIND DATE one time, point to your cheek as in for her to kiss you, then as soon as she comes to kiss your cheek, turn your face quickly and kiss her lips
 

Kraken

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Don't try to force a kiss if the mood's not right just for the sake of kissing her. Also, generally if you fail a kiss during one date, you should probably wait a little while (i.e. not the same goddamn date) before you try it again. Even if you may have the chance of kissing her again on the same date, wait, just to be respectful.

For now, lay off the kissing attempts - she'll be thinking about them, and thinking about you, in the meanwhile.
 
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Hell my man at -25 degrees (that is below zero , right?) , I can see why she is giving you the cold shoulder :)

Move to a warmer climate where the women are hot:)
 

Lone_raider

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I seemed to have this problem with a girl once. She went to catholic school her whole life and for the first time was away from that at College. After our first date, I drove her home and she jumped out of my car like it was on fire! lol. I took that as a bad sign and didn't call her untill she called me and wanted to go out again. I said OK, this time she drove and at the end of the night I was planning on kissing her but she was looking down and said OK goodbye really fast. Bad sign again, so I got out and that was that. Never went out with her again, but at the time I didn't realize it might have been her catholic upbrining making her shy around guys, shy about kissing, who knows? You should give it another try but wait untill you have the buying signs, kind of wish I had done the same now.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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