"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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2 Analogies to Help Develop Inner Confidence

thechosenone2190

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I. Salesperson analogy
You are a sales man. Your product is your self. Successful sale = sex. Ways to increase your sales:
1. Approach more people. It's a numbers game. An unsuccessful sale is nothing personal. People either like your product or not.
2. Deliver an effective sales pitch. Know the best way to appeal to your target customers and aim to reach that advanced level of salesmanship.
3. Improve your product (self). This will increase your chances of a sale and increase your confidence in your product, which will further boost your chances of success.

II. Videogame analogy
You are a character in a Role Playing Game eg. World of Warcraft. Your goal is to level up, unlock new items, and defeat bosses. The more you level up, the better weapons you can equip. Better weapons = hotter girls. Items = wealth. Boss battles = the AFC within you. If you die, the game simply restarts, so you try again. No big deal. The more times you try again, the more successful you will be in the game. Very simple.

I think these analogies have been used before, but I kind of came up with them again on my own and wanted to record them for my own reference. Please do whatever you like with them.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Exhumed

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Those analogies won't help anyone, especially the videogame one. Friends and nice clothes are weapons, confidence and game are skills to be leveled up, women are enemies that give you lots of xp, and other dudes are other players trying to kill them. The fat jealous ****blocking friend is the boss. That makes much more sense, though it's still worthless. Was a fun way to kill two minutes.

And why aren't you out trying to get laid right now? It's friday. I'm staying in because I'm a college kid and none of the frats are partying because they're out collecting money for charity. And I'm not liking it.
 

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I swear I have thought of the video game analogy when I was really high once. It made perfect sense and it's a great analogy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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