DonJuan_DeRosco
Don Juan
Hi guys, an incident happened last night that I wanna run by you all which pissed me off slightly.
Background, being seeing 20yr old south german hb for 7 months now. First foreign girl, I realise she's smack bang in danger age which is something I dealt with at the beginning. Now up until last night, she's been damn near perfect, old fashioned values, body language spot on, affectionate, properly into me, cooks, great in bed, a potential keeper etc, all the good signs we look for. Being german she's very sensible, she's not a prude but she has a healthy amount of self respect and dresses modestly, all her friends from the same area appear to be the same so it seems cultural. I am the most cynical person I know so this has taken a helluva lot of adjustment on my part after dealing with typical british girls. It's been an interesting trip.
So last night we were out for a halloween party with some friends, night was great, good fun, she's affectionate blah blah etc. We get to this club and all having fun, but I can tell we are getting to our recommended limit of alcohol. She's the most drunk I think I've ever seen her but again not a typical british girl style drunk.
I'm tryna convince her to hit the dance floor but she always says she never dances then all of a sudden, this bunny boiler appears, grabs her to the dance floor where upon my german girl starts slightly sexy dancing with her and then, in true car crash television I know what's coming next. They have a wee kiss. Dance some more, then another wee kiss. Now I know most girls like a wee kiss with their female friends but this random bint came out of nowhere!
And this is what annoyed me, my reaction. I marched down to the dance floor, tapped her on the shoulder and said 'what the hells this?' then bunny boiler quickly flees leaving my girl tryna dance with me. She tries to kiss me but I put my finger on her lips and tell her 'hell no'. We sit down, in her drunken state she's amused that I'm 'jealous' and tells me I have nothing to worry about. I calmly say I'm not jealous but you just went and kissed some other person, I don't give a damn if it's a girl, could easily have been a guy in my book.
After that she's really clingy with me, in my drunken state I'm finding it hard to keep my anger from showing, she can sense it and she's being really meek and clingy, eventually we get back to hers and go straight to sleep. In the morning we are recounting the events from last night and she says 'you finally got me up dancing' to which I replied 'No, that girl did'. She asks what girl and I recount the event telling her I was pissed off with her and she 'claims' she doesn't remember it but my cynicism doesn't believe it.
She seemed genuinely shocked about her behaviour and very apologetic, says she's not surprised I was annoyed with her. I however left her earlier than expected without banging her and in kneejerk response sent out a 'hello' message to some old plates, kinda wishing I hadnt.
I'm in 2 minds over this incident, she's been fault free up till this and that's probably why my guard was down, went against my own advice there lol. So I'm looking for some objective thoughts. It is seriously the only issue that's happened with her.
Am I over reacting? Handled it bad, I think I did.
Was I right to pull her up about it? I shoulda found bunny boiler and danced with her, that's what old cynical me woulda done.
Should I raise this as a red flag, or yellow or orange?
Sorry for long rant, completely unexpected and I haven't had this sh!tty gut feeling for so long and I hate it!
P.S. Bunny boiler went on to do some similar sh!t stirring, saw two guys fighting over her later on.
Background, being seeing 20yr old south german hb for 7 months now. First foreign girl, I realise she's smack bang in danger age which is something I dealt with at the beginning. Now up until last night, she's been damn near perfect, old fashioned values, body language spot on, affectionate, properly into me, cooks, great in bed, a potential keeper etc, all the good signs we look for. Being german she's very sensible, she's not a prude but she has a healthy amount of self respect and dresses modestly, all her friends from the same area appear to be the same so it seems cultural. I am the most cynical person I know so this has taken a helluva lot of adjustment on my part after dealing with typical british girls. It's been an interesting trip.
So last night we were out for a halloween party with some friends, night was great, good fun, she's affectionate blah blah etc. We get to this club and all having fun, but I can tell we are getting to our recommended limit of alcohol. She's the most drunk I think I've ever seen her but again not a typical british girl style drunk.
I'm tryna convince her to hit the dance floor but she always says she never dances then all of a sudden, this bunny boiler appears, grabs her to the dance floor where upon my german girl starts slightly sexy dancing with her and then, in true car crash television I know what's coming next. They have a wee kiss. Dance some more, then another wee kiss. Now I know most girls like a wee kiss with their female friends but this random bint came out of nowhere!
And this is what annoyed me, my reaction. I marched down to the dance floor, tapped her on the shoulder and said 'what the hells this?' then bunny boiler quickly flees leaving my girl tryna dance with me. She tries to kiss me but I put my finger on her lips and tell her 'hell no'. We sit down, in her drunken state she's amused that I'm 'jealous' and tells me I have nothing to worry about. I calmly say I'm not jealous but you just went and kissed some other person, I don't give a damn if it's a girl, could easily have been a guy in my book.
After that she's really clingy with me, in my drunken state I'm finding it hard to keep my anger from showing, she can sense it and she's being really meek and clingy, eventually we get back to hers and go straight to sleep. In the morning we are recounting the events from last night and she says 'you finally got me up dancing' to which I replied 'No, that girl did'. She asks what girl and I recount the event telling her I was pissed off with her and she 'claims' she doesn't remember it but my cynicism doesn't believe it.
She seemed genuinely shocked about her behaviour and very apologetic, says she's not surprised I was annoyed with her. I however left her earlier than expected without banging her and in kneejerk response sent out a 'hello' message to some old plates, kinda wishing I hadnt.
I'm in 2 minds over this incident, she's been fault free up till this and that's probably why my guard was down, went against my own advice there lol. So I'm looking for some objective thoughts. It is seriously the only issue that's happened with her.
Am I over reacting? Handled it bad, I think I did.
Was I right to pull her up about it? I shoulda found bunny boiler and danced with her, that's what old cynical me woulda done.
Should I raise this as a red flag, or yellow or orange?
Sorry for long rant, completely unexpected and I haven't had this sh!tty gut feeling for so long and I hate it!
P.S. Bunny boiler went on to do some similar sh!t stirring, saw two guys fighting over her later on.