"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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18 Years.

amazingswayze

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Today, I'm 18 years old. Sure, a lot has happened in the past year but, I don't feel any different. I don't have any plans today. I'm going out to a nice restaurant with my mom, and I'm going to the gym but it's nothing special. Last year for my birthday, I went to Dave and Buster's with my friends.

I guess I'm realizing that things are different now. I just started college. I'll never be walking those High School halls anymore. I wish things went differently but that's not reality. I gotta count my blessings.

I'm in a great school, and an amazing nursing program. It's the most affordable in my area. I was told that I have a 'golden ticket'. Even though I will have a stable career in a few years, that doesn't give me happiness.

Well, not sure what the purpose of this post was, just wanna get these thoughts off my chest. The things I write on SoSuave I usually don't talk about in person.

I feel strange, that's all.

Getting older.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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amazingswayze

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Thank you Ruler. I do want to be a nurse but it's going to take a lot of hard work, which I'm not thrilled about. Once I'm making money in my 20's, as a bachelor with a great job, I think I will be happy. Right now I'm just at a crossroads. I've been mentally fatigued lately is all.
 

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plant....cultivate...harvest

amazingswayze said:
Thank you Ruler. I do want to be a nurse but it's going to take a lot of hard work, which I'm not thrilled about. Once I'm making money in my 20's, as a bachelor with a great job, I think I will be happy. Right now I'm just at a crossroads. I've been mentally fatigued lately is all.
Happy birthday

some thoughts:

On Alpha: to quote Rollo "Alpha is mindset. You are not Alpha because of your achievements, you have your achievements because you are Alpha. You posses a mindset you either had to develop or it came naturally to you"

Point? same with happiness

On Happiness "Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success" Albert Schweitzer

So many people have that backwards..."when I have xyz then I'll be happy"

When really developing a positive philosopy is what drives you towards success

Is happiness a state of mind? It is....but...you have to cultivate it on a daily basis...

it usually boils down to cultivating positive or happy inducing habits on a daily basis, consistently over time...

Plant......cultivate.........harvest....
 

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Nostalgia is a dog who eats his own vomit.

Do not try and connect to the past because it will find you on its own.

Be excited for the future. Own what you are to become and revel in it.

Serve yourself fruitfully and conform because riches are built not found. BUT, always keep your heart gauged and passionate for when you need it.

Work as if (God) someone is always watching. You'll learn, you were always watching and you never let yourself down, no matter what anyone else thinks or saw.
 

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Your at a great point in your life right now. I remember when I was there like yesterday. I just had started college and started dating a new girl, we were banging non stop. I wish I had known what I do now when I was that age. You are lucky that you have the knowledge that you have from this site at the age of 18. You have your whole life ahead of you and if you keep the mind set, you can achieve so much with not just women, but in life too. Make the most of it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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