JayUK
Don Juan
go wit ure instinct man
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
wow the part about the flaming him you are ignorant and obviously not reading what we wrote. Sure some people are making jokes, but look at my thread, and you tell me it does not make complete and total sense, and like my post says I was in the same situation so I have some experience with it.Originally posted by kegger
Go for it dude. I am in a similar boat to you. I am 16 and going out with a 13 year old. Not many people know yet but it seems to be going well so far and my friends think nothing of it. It seems to becoming more popular as time goes on. I would not try anything for now becuase it is generaly statutory rape until she is 16, atleast that is how it is were I live. I am still having some problems since this is really the first girlfriend I have had and I fill nervous and all, I am working on over coming that, but it is all great. GO FOR IT DUDE IF YOU LIKE HER. I would not think anything about what these JERKS are saying, they just like to FLAME people.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yeah I thought so too. Some 14 year olds are very much physically matured, but I definately wasn't ready for sex at 14 (emotionally).Originally posted by Soupar
Some of you guys dont find this disturbing?
Theres a HUGE maturity difference between a 17 year old and a 14 year old, even if it is just three years.