JayUK
Don Juan
go wit ure instinct man
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
14 Yr. Old HB8. Shall I go for it?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Go for it dude. I am in a similar boat to you. I am 16 and going out with a 13 year old. Not many people know yet but it seems to be going well so far and my friends think nothing of it. It seems to becoming more popular as time goes on. I would not try anything for now becuase it is generaly statutory rape until she is 16, atleast that is how it is were I live. I am still having some problems since this is really the first girlfriend I have had and I fill nervous and all, I am working on over coming that, but it is all great. GO FOR IT DUDE IF YOU LIKE HER. I would not think anything about what these JERKS are saying, they just like to FLAME people.
coolguy676767
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wow the part about the flaming him you are ignorant and obviously not reading what we wrote. Sure some people are making jokes, but look at my thread, and you tell me it does not make complete and total sense, and like my post says I was in the same situation so I have some experience with it.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I didn't expect this to be such a controversy.
Anyway, I'm not looking forward to banging her fellas. It's just not my style to go against my morals and stealing the V-card from a girl who hasn't even attended high school yet.
1) Yes there might be a difference in the level of maturity between me and her, but even so. I could care less.
2) I do want to go for it, and my instincts tell me "GO!!" However, I'm leaning more towards Ken785, coolguy, and others who suggest I keep her as a friend since I AM going to college afterall. Plenty of fresh meat there.
EH! overall, I think I'll pass, for now. Just don't feel like dealing with being labeled as something negative by the others @ church. BUTTTTT if i manage to get into the spur of the moment with her, I'll definitely give it a shot fella's. Age is just a number after all.
I'm 17 and going out with a 14-year-old.
It's really not a big deal. It depends a lot on how close to being 18 you are though.
I have 9 more months til I'm 18, and by then we very possibly will have broken up.
Also, it depends on how old the girl looks. If the girl actually LOOKS 14, then it just seems weird. You can probably do better. This girl I'm going out with could easily pass for 16 or 17, no problem.
It's really not a big deal. It depends a lot on how close to being 18 you are though.
I have 9 more months til I'm 18, and by then we very possibly will have broken up.
Also, it depends on how old the girl looks. If the girl actually LOOKS 14, then it just seems weird. You can probably do better. This girl I'm going out with could easily pass for 16 or 17, no problem.
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
I swear some of you guys have no class. Hit it while it's still legal? Is that assuming that the only girls you have a chance with are so young that it'll be illegal to **** em in 6 months? Do yourself a favor, and keep your standards high. If the other girls in your class see you dating a 14 year old, they'll probably think you're pretty sad, and you will end many chances you may have in the future. It's also a great confidence booster to contain your "goods" to the few and lucky.
socialsecurity
Don Juan
Obviously the older you get, the smaller a deal it becomes. Basically, I think the somewhat classy guidlines are, if you go to the same school, it's fair game. When you're talking about senior and freshmen I think it's awful white trash, but in the guidlines.
For me personally it's can't be more than a year. In college that might change, but we'll have to wait until next year for that report.
For the first situation, she's a pastors daughter, you're screwed. Just don't do it.
For the post above mine, yes 17 and 18 is cool.
For me personally it's can't be more than a year. In college that might change, but we'll have to wait until next year for that report.
For the first situation, she's a pastors daughter, you're screwed. Just don't do it.
For the post above mine, yes 17 and 18 is cool.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Don't know, I heard pastors daughters are the wildest. If you know what I mean, I really think nothing of it anymore. Like said before the older you get the less of a deal it becomes. My fathers GF is 13 years younger than him and our neigbors are about 20 years apart. It really isn't that big of a deal in high school or Jr. High. Just do what you think is right.
As I said earlier, if the girl actually looks like she's 14, and you're 17, then it's a little weird. If the girl is real hot and could pass for 16 or 17, I think it's fine.
The MAIN thing is if the girl is mature physically and mentally. One thing to keep in mind is that girls generally mature faster than guys.
My girl is 14 and I'm 17. She's a freshman, I'm a junior. We get along, we like eachother.
If I knew she was only 14 when I first met her I probably would have never gone for her. I used to say the same thing, "1 year difference is the limit for me". I never asked her how old she was and just assumed she was about my age, maybe a year younger. It wasn't until a few weeks later that her age came up and I was stunned. Once again, the point of that story is to show you that age doesn't really matter, as long as you're within the law.
As for all the other girls in your class thinking you're pretty sad for dating a 14-year-old, that shouldn't be a factor. If what people think of you is gonna stop you from getting a HB8, then you're probably gay. And if a girl is stupid and shallow enough to not be into you cuz you once dated a 14-year-old, the dumb b1tch isnt worth your time anyway.
The MAIN thing is if the girl is mature physically and mentally. One thing to keep in mind is that girls generally mature faster than guys.
My girl is 14 and I'm 17. She's a freshman, I'm a junior. We get along, we like eachother.
If I knew she was only 14 when I first met her I probably would have never gone for her. I used to say the same thing, "1 year difference is the limit for me". I never asked her how old she was and just assumed she was about my age, maybe a year younger. It wasn't until a few weeks later that her age came up and I was stunned. Once again, the point of that story is to show you that age doesn't really matter, as long as you're within the law.
As for all the other girls in your class thinking you're pretty sad for dating a 14-year-old, that shouldn't be a factor. If what people think of you is gonna stop you from getting a HB8, then you're probably gay. And if a girl is stupid and shallow enough to not be into you cuz you once dated a 14-year-old, the dumb b1tch isnt worth your time anyway.
She DOES look 14, so it would seem weird to the average eye. She's got a nice body and a cute face, not to mention the playful personality. She's not really mature from what I've experienced (from both first-hand and observation), but physically, she's pretty set.
Next, it's hard to be "within the law" since my birthday's in April. The last thing I need is to be in jail and all that mess over one girl. I can be a risk taker to a certain degree, and going to jail for one girl isn't worth it.
Next, it's hard to be "within the law" since my birthday's in April. The last thing I need is to be in jail and all that mess over one girl. I can be a risk taker to a certain degree, and going to jail for one girl isn't worth it.
"You're going to a special kind of hell."
I laughed. That was funny.
I have this debate alot.
Being as I just turned 16, 3 years is like, 13. Yet my best friends sister is really young, and damn, she's hot.
I dunno, you only live once, but then again, you only live once, so don't screw it up.
Some people would look down on that, such as her parents, church members, who look down on all sexual activity.
But we seem to look up to that. LOL.
Send pictures. lol. jk.
I laughed. That was funny.
I have this debate alot.
Being as I just turned 16, 3 years is like, 13. Yet my best friends sister is really young, and damn, she's hot.
I dunno, you only live once, but then again, you only live once, so don't screw it up.
Some people would look down on that, such as her parents, church members, who look down on all sexual activity.
But we seem to look up to that. LOL.
Send pictures. lol. jk.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
gizury
Don Juan
dont do it man !
my bud was screwing a missionarys daughter would sneak back to her(14) house every day after school and stonk her broken till one day he got the and should we just say pastor was not a happy man
we went on holiday like a week later day 1 into the holiday he gets a missed call from her, he asks me to call back
should we just say it wasnt her but the mother she informed me that my friend should get a lawyer as they were fileing a case against him for sexual assault of a minor and he was going to jail to get raped by a male ....... **** talk about hectic .
a good deal of legal fees later they drop the case but is was a complete screw up
idbp id befor pleasure is my rule
think withoutr the head in your pants there are tons of hb8s your age or older the older one could just teach you something kinky
my bud was screwing a missionarys daughter would sneak back to her(14) house every day after school and stonk her broken till one day he got the and should we just say pastor was not a happy man
we went on holiday like a week later day 1 into the holiday he gets a missed call from her, he asks me to call back
should we just say it wasnt her but the mother she informed me that my friend should get a lawyer as they were fileing a case against him for sexual assault of a minor and he was going to jail to get raped by a male ....... **** talk about hectic .
a good deal of legal fees later they drop the case but is was a complete screw up
idbp id befor pleasure is my rule
think withoutr the head in your pants there are tons of hb8s your age or older the older one could just teach you something kinky
Indie
New Member
Yeah I thought so too. Some 14 year olds are very much physically matured, but I definately wasn't ready for sex at 14 (emotionally).
Also this would be illegal in Britain, lads have to be younger than 16 if the girl is younger than 16 here.
WAIT A SECOND. You keep talking about have sex, who in the **** says you have to have sex with her. Could you just not hang out and have a good time without having sex. Is this a possibility. PLEASE TELL ME, I REALLY WANT TO KNOW!!!!!!