12 Women Explain Why They Never Want to Have Kids

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If you've made the decision to not have kids, we're guessing people are always up in your business asking why. Something about being confident in your decision to go child-free brings judgment and doubt from others—whether that's in the form of condescending remarks that you’ll change your mind later, pestering questions wondering how you can really be sure, or accusations of being selfish. Ugh.

According to recent data from the U.S. Census Bureau’s Current Population Survey, more and more women are forgoing motherhood than ever before—nearly half of women between ages 15 and 44, in fact—so we asked Women’s Health readers who have done so about their choice to live a child-free life. Here are just a few reasons behind the common decision:

12 Women Explain Why They Never Want to Have Kids

Yes, as in never.

www.womenshealthmag.com

"All I ever wanted was to have children. I had an incredible childhood, brought up on a farm. No mobiles, no iPad, no PlayStation. Just playing outside with my mum and dad both at home working on the farm. I am starting to think that I couldn't cope with bringing up a child in this new world. They grow up so quickly these days and just don't seem to have a childhood anymore. If I could keep my child innocent and a child until it was time to grow up naturally, I wouldn't even think about it. But to bring a child into this day and age—I just don't think I can do it." —Marie C.

"I am mature enough to know that I am too selfish to have children. I like to pick up and go when and where I want, travel, spend money, work overtime without guilt, nap when I want, etc. I am a fantastic aunt, though!" —Lea M.

"First, it's not possible for me to have a baby. Secondly, I would not adopt because I would prefer to have my own blood. Thirdly, this long into life with no child, I realize I will be just fine." —Valerie H.

"I don't want to sign up for something that I will never, ever be able to back out of. You have to be all-in and totally devoted, 100 percent, and sometimes I have a hard enough time taking care of myself. When I hear the saying, 'Motherhood is the hardest job in the world,' I take that seriously. And I realized I don't want the hardest job in the world. And that's okay. My wellbeing comes first. And that is also okay." —Andriana P.

"Have you seen the way kids act these days?! I don't think I could handle that." —Sarah T.

"I'm not too selfish; I just don't want them. Never have. I'm not drawn to children, I don't like being around them, and I enjoy being able to focus on my career and my hobbies. I am living my life the way I want, and that happens to not include kids." —Adriana R.

"I had an amazing mother. She was selfless and worked up to three jobs at a time to get me through college. She gave everything of herself to her children and her grandchildren. I don't feel I have the passion she did for having kids. Don't get me wrong: I love my nieces and would do anything for them and am in their lives more than lots of aunts. But to have a child of my own, seeing what women go through—I work in women's health—and then how it changes peoples lives...it's just not for me. It's a beautiful thing, and lots of people love having children. Call me selfish or controlling or whatever name people pick, but I love my life the way it is and don't want to change it. I can do what I want when I want, sleep in on the weekends, travel, schedule things for myself. And honestly, I like buying sneakers—lots of sneakers. And I love spoiling my siblings and their children. That brings me joy!" —Jessica S.

"My husband and I are in our early forties and have been together for 15 years. We have always been on the same page about not having kids. We work hard but love our free time together. We travel a lot and can pick up and go whenever. Some will call it selfish, but we've both never felt the urge or need." —Woolley J.

"I'm 46 years old and have no regrets about my decision not to raise children. I guess I just don't have that gene to drive me to be dedicated to transforming little babies into mature, healthy adults. I didn't have role models that parented the way that I thought the job should be done, and to this day, I don't have the confidence that I could parent the way I think it should be done. I am quite content and fulfilled with my child-free life." —Nan T.

"Two words: overpopulation problem." —Samantha B.

"How about it's none of anyone's business? We don't need a 'reason' to not have children. I don't want children. Last time I checked, it was my life and I could do what I want. I don't owe anyone any explanations." —Mandie L.

"Money. Time. Freedom. Energy. End of story. Some women are born without a maternal desire. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that." —Bethany C.
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[BackInTheGame78]

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If you've made the decision to not have kids, we're guessing people are always up in your business asking why. Something about being confident in your decision to go child-free brings judgment and doubt from others—whether that's in the form of condescending remarks that you’ll change your mind later, pestering questions wondering how you can really be sure, or accusations of being selfish. Ugh.

According to recent data from the U.S. Census Bureau’s Current Population Survey, more and more women are forgoing motherhood than ever before—nearly half of women between ages 15 and 44, in fact—so we asked Women’s Health readers who have done so about their choice to live a child-free life. Here are just a few reasons behind the common decision:

12 Women Explain Why They Never Want to Have Kids

Yes, as in never.

www.womenshealthmag.com

"All I ever wanted was to have children. I had an incredible childhood, brought up on a farm. No mobiles, no iPad, no PlayStation. Just playing outside with my mum and dad both at home working on the farm. I am starting to think that I couldn't cope with bringing up a child in this new world. They grow up so quickly these days and just don't seem to have a childhood anymore. If I could keep my child innocent and a child until it was time to grow up naturally, I wouldn't even think about it. But to bring a child into this day and age—I just don't think I can do it." —Marie C.

"I am mature enough to know that I am too selfish to have children. I like to pick up and go when and where I want, travel, spend money, work overtime without guilt, nap when I want, etc. I am a fantastic aunt, though!" —Lea M.

"First, it's not possible for me to have a baby. Secondly, I would not adopt because I would prefer to have my own blood. Thirdly, this long into life with no child, I realize I will be just fine." —Valerie H.

"I don't want to sign up for something that I will never, ever be able to back out of. You have to be all-in and totally devoted, 100 percent, and sometimes I have a hard enough time taking care of myself. When I hear the saying, 'Motherhood is the hardest job in the world,' I take that seriously. And I realized I don't want the hardest job in the world. And that's okay. My wellbeing comes first. And that is also okay." —Andriana P.

"Have you seen the way kids act these days?! I don't think I could handle that." —Sarah T.

"I'm not too selfish; I just don't want them. Never have. I'm not drawn to children, I don't like being around them, and I enjoy being able to focus on my career and my hobbies. I am living my life the way I want, and that happens to not include kids." —Adriana R.

"I had an amazing mother. She was selfless and worked up to three jobs at a time to get me through college. She gave everything of herself to her children and her grandchildren. I don't feel I have the passion she did for having kids. Don't get me wrong: I love my nieces and would do anything for them and am in their lives more than lots of aunts. But to have a child of my own, seeing what women go through—I work in women's health—and then how it changes peoples lives...it's just not for me. It's a beautiful thing, and lots of people love having children. Call me selfish or controlling or whatever name people pick, but I love my life the way it is and don't want to change it. I can do what I want when I want, sleep in on the weekends, travel, schedule things for myself. And honestly, I like buying sneakers—lots of sneakers. And I love spoiling my siblings and their children. That brings me joy!" —Jessica S.

"My husband and I are in our early forties and have been together for 15 years. We have always been on the same page about not having kids. We work hard but love our free time together. We travel a lot and can pick up and go whenever. Some will call it selfish, but we've both never felt the urge or need." —Woolley J.

"I'm 46 years old and have no regrets about my decision not to raise children. I guess I just don't have that gene to drive me to be dedicated to transforming little babies into mature, healthy adults. I didn't have role models that parented the way that I thought the job should be done, and to this day, I don't have the confidence that I could parent the way I think it should be done. I am quite content and fulfilled with my child-free life." —Nan T.

"Two words: overpopulation problem." —Samantha B.

"How about it's none of anyone's business? We don't need a 'reason' to not have children. I don't want children. Last time I checked, it was my life and I could do what I want. I don't owe anyone any explanations." —Mandie L.

"Money. Time. Freedom. Energy. End of story. Some women are born without a maternal desire. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that." —Bethany C.
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Thoughts?

There are lies, damn lies, and then there are statistics.

Your 50% narrative is a bunch of nonsense in reality. It also measures temporary childless as in they don't have kids "yet".

The actual rate of true "childless" women is far, far lower and it's around 15% of women who reach age 45-50 never having have birth.

 

[Prepostereax]

Would not surprise me in the slightest if one followed the money and found that promoters of studies like this had interests in the ivf industry

 

[Bigpapa]

The actual rate of true "childless" women is far, far lower and it's around 15% of women who reach age 45-50 never having have birth.

you talk about Gen X women, different type of woman than millennials

When Gen X was 30 mental problems was a niche thing for example

mental problems and going to therapy exploded with millennials, same as antidepressants and other stuff that are very well known to drop libido

 

[Bigpapa]

Would not surprise me in the slightest if one followed the money and found that promoters of studies like this had interests in the ivf industry

I Don’t think is that, is more about that female empowerment is something that is pushed aggressively for the last 30 years , and women do not really understand that you either have children while you are young or you will never be able to have them

they understand the intellectual part, but do not emotionally understand it properly

 

[BackInTheGame78]

you talk about Gen X women, different type of woman than millennials

When Gen X was 30 mental problems was a niche thing for example

mental problems and going to therapy exploded with millennials, same as antidepressants and other stuff that are very well known to drop libido

Dating low T men who aren't interested in sex and who act like women more than their girlfriends don't help either

 

[Bigpapa]

Dating low T men who aren't interested in sex and who act like women more than their girlfriends don't help either

low T can easily be explained by the fact that most jobs require little to no physical effort

from a sexual point of view, libido more exactly, after a certain amount more T does not mean a higher libido

I think that guys whom are not as sexual mainly stems from 30 years of propaganda that men are evil + the fact that most women are toxic these days

Guys are feminized by society, which makes things even tougher

look at one thing, places like this or girlschase, places where seduction is discussed ( good or bad that is another question ) start to have little to no traffic . Most advices for men and women come from social media, and the advice there is worse than any of the stupid advices here

 

[BackInTheGame78]

low T can easily be explained by the fact that most jobs require little to no physical effort

from a sexual point of view, libido more exactly, after a certain amount more T does not mean a higher libido

I think that guys whom are not as sexual mainly stems from 30 years of propaganda that men are evil + the fact that most women are toxic these days

Guys are feminized by society, which makes things even tougher

look at one thing, places like this or girlschase, places where seduction is discussed ( good or bad that is another question ) start to have little to no traffic . Most advices for men and women come from social media, and the advice there is worse than any of the stupid advices here

It cannot be easily explained by that actually.

That may be part of it, but there are far more insidious things in play that attack the male endocrine system every day of their life from the time they are conceived in the mother's womb: plastics, pesticides, soy, prescription drugs and numerous other environmental hazards that are inescapable and even found in the water supply.

All of these compounds are estrogenic in nature and since the body's sex hormone marker is estrogen, elevated levels of estrogen in the male body essentially shut down T production and ramp up SHBG to bind to free teatosterone since the usual way this happens is via aromatization of Testosterone into estradiol.

Lack of physical work does not explain why there has been a consistent 1% per year drop in T levels since at least 1980, over 45 years.

 

[Bigpapa]

Lack of physical work does not explain why there has been a consistent 1% per year drop in T levels since at least 1980, over 45 years.

because from the 80s were still more factories than they are today . And also in the 80s started the export of production from the developed countries to china

in the 80s the vast majority of guys had blue collars jobs

now the vast majority of guys work for corporations, do not exercise, are stressed by the toxic environment there, and are daily bombarded by the propaganda

most of the propaganda actually happens inside the corporations via HR

quite sure that the environmental things that you Mentioned like pesticides, plastic, drugs, etc have an effect, but I think that most of the effect is due to the lack of physical effort + chronic toxic stress due to the work environment

I do not think that now there is more plastic, pesticides, etc than it used to be in the 80s

I remember that in the 80s for example there were little to no ecological laws and a lot of rivers were polluted by the factories with very toxic things . Now it does not really happen anymore very crazy ecological stuff

I think that what has changed is the fact that now more and more people take anti depressants and stuff, that have as a side effect the drop in libido

going to the shrink in the 80,90,early 2000 was taboo and niche. Now, sometimes I kinda feel that everyone is going to the therapist and takes anti depressants

 

[Bigpapa]

Copied this from chat gpt as I think this explains far better what is happening that the drop in T



The Behavioral Sink

As density rose, Calhoun observed a phenomenon he named the “behavioral sink”: mice voluntarily crowded together near feeding areas even when plenty of empty, less-crowded space was available elsewhere in the complex.

This constant, unavoidable physical contact triggered severe chronic stress and a breakdown of normal social organization. Distinct pathological behaviors emerged:[scienceinsights]

• Males became increasingly violent, and social hierarchies collapsed into chaos with fighting over territory and status.[the-scientist]
• Some males withdrew entirely, compulsively grooming themselves for hours instead of engaging socially, a group Calhoun later called “the beautiful ones”.[the-scientist +1]
• Females stopped building proper nests, abandoned or attacked their pups, and many failed to carry pregnancies to term.[smithsonianmag]
• Courtship and normal mating behavior broke down; animals lost the social skills needed to reproduce even though they were physically capable.[wikipedia]


Population Collapse

Around day 600 — just over a month past the population peak — no newborn pups were surviving more than a few days. Births then stopped almost entirely.

Older mice lingered on, some living like hermits, others endlessly self-grooming, but the colony never recovered.

Even mice removed from Universe 25 and placed with “normal,” non-traumatized mice couldn’t relearn courtship, mating, or pup-rearing —

Calhoun’s team described them as trapped in “an infantile state of early development”.

By spring 1973, less than five years after the experiment began, the population had crashed from a peak of 2,200 down to zero — total extinction.[apple +3]